18 and can't keep it up!

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  1. johnny1234

    johnny1234 New Member

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    I'm 18 years old (ya I know it says that I'm 23 I just put in a random birth date) and I think I have erectile dysfunction.

    I've had my first gf for about 5 months now. In the beginning of our relationship I would have to try really hard NOT to get a boner. Sometimes we would lay in my bed all night and just make out and hold each other. My penis would stay hard the entire night.

    Now I have trouble keeping it up. It will stay hard for about an hour and if I am lucky we can have sex twice, but after that it just wont get hard! It just stays in this kind of half erect state where it is almost at full erection size but it's too soft to do anything. If I start to play with her it will get hard but as soon as I try to get a condom on it goes soft again!

    It is really stressing me out. I can only think of 2 reasons why this might be happening: (1) when we used to stay up all nite and just kiss it would stay hard for over 6 hours and now it's "broken" or (2) I smoke

    Does anyone have some advice or info they could give me? Should I see a doctor for this? Am I going to need Viagra or is this something I can fix myself?
     
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    Johnny

    Before I got to the "I smoke" bit i thought "weed"....do you smoke it ?
     
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    not sure I want to post about that online. I'm not saying I smoke it, but what if I said yes?
     
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    Johnny no worries...

    I was going with my intuition...and the word came loud into my head...

    A young friend of mine does smoke weed every day and he too finds it hard to sustain an erection....he says before he smoked so much, he was hard a lot of the time and had no problems...

    Just a thought Johnny....:)
     
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    Look up Jelqs, Kegeling and take 50mg Zinc before bedtime.
    Do this before you even think about Cialis or Viagra at your age.
     
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    I don't smoke pot or anything but as most everyone I have tried it.
    And it messes with your time element.
    Just a few words that Sexy didn't mention,
    An hour is a long time, Some of us can do it that long some
    can't. But if you are think an hour or two every
    day, well thats a lot, so you may just be getting over
    the novelty of having sex.
    Also I did know some Potheads (regular smokers, not just recreational) and they have a hard time functioning at anything.
    So I can say for certain you must choose between sex and pot.
    that your choice.
    A little story, I took my wife to an adult motel for a
    weekend of fun and toot 2 fatties. We were doing great till
    I lit one up, She got the giggles-end of sex, and the end
    of pot.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    "2 fatties"

    I thought you meant two fat women haha

    Oh dear...what about all those young stoners that do it every day...

    They wont listen though....they prefer their smoke to sex, some of em....

    Aaaah well!!

    Thanks Big for the story...:)
     
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    I'm pretty sure pot isn't my problem. I am definitely not a regular smoker. It must be something else
     
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    Johnny...

    I suppose its just a process of elimination....

    This isnt an uncommon thing....

    Can I ask you....when you masturbate, are you able to sustain a hard on?

    Are you stressed or overworried about something...whether it be your performance or otherwise?
     
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    Well... when I masturbate I can get hard but I pretty much just try to make myself cum and then go do something else, so I'm not sure how long I'd be able to keep my erection if i tried.

    As far as the stress part, ever since the first time I went soft without wanting to I am ALWAYS worried about keeping it up while Im with her. Other than that I'm not stressed about anything
     
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    I know from reading a lot of posts in this Forum that youll get god advice from the females and the males here....

    But like Hiker says some guys can go for ages, and multiple times, other guys cant go for long and only the once...
    It differers for different guys...But at your age , i think most all teen guys can go like the duracell bunny.. :)


    Hope everything works out for ya.
     
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    At 18 it should be hard most of the day and night IMO.

    Go see the doc.
     
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    Do you drink alcohol.That is a killer too
     
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    nope
     
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    I think you might be over thinkning the whole trying to stay hard. There might be some type of distractions around you that you might now be aware of. Try not to focus on things as much. It might be really minor to you but it might be the one thing that is making your problems. Have you tried heavy petting and ask her to put the condom on...It just might be a turn on enough for you to stay hard, ask her to masturbate for you while you put it on if she dont want to do it herself. There are many things that can keep the energy going for you. Keep it sexy. Good luck!
     
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    It's because you're worrying about it. It's the hierarchy of needs -- when you're really nervous, your body kicks into "survival" mode, and isn't really interested in having sex. Once you stop worrying about it, the problem will go away.
     
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    Exactly. And cigarettes are proven to cause erectile dysfunction too.
     
  18. NaughtyKnickers

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    This is such a good point, one for us women to remember regarding our bodies and our man's, too. Thanks for adding, equinox. :)
     
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    Hey, I do what I can :)
     
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    relax alittle

    hi man... first i don't think u broke it by being horney for 6 hours.
    i think maybe u r to damn stress about it, so u must try to relax.

    , have fun
     
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