Regaining Erection - SexualForums.com

rockyraccoon2 · 11-11-09, 02:32PM

While I can get an erection with no problem at all, I find it hard to regain it once it's gone. And this becomes a problem with foreplay. I initially get hard during making out and grinding, but then I lose it when the clothes come off and I go down on her for a while. Then it becomes hard to get it back, even if she goes down on me. It's like how a person can fall asleep easily, but when they get awoken, it's hard to fall back asleep. Does anyone else have this problem or some advice? I don't want to not go down on her first coz I love doing it and she likes it too. Thanks.

igor · 11-11-09, 04:49PM

It was normal for me to sometimes lose an erection while engaged in foreplay, concentrating on her pleasure rather than mine. But I never had a problem regaining it once some attention was given to me.

**HardRocker** · 11-11-09, 05:33PM

You'll have a lot more staying power if you avoid too much of:

Drink
smoke
drugs
porn
jerking off frequently

Shit I sound like a preacher... or somebody's parent. But it's all true, I swear!

SavvyStud917 · 11-11-09, 05:35PM

Hm and this is before she even makes you cum?? Have you tried going with the ol 69 occasionally if the ladies up for it. Maybe some type of natural herb just 2 give your libido that extra "Umph" Ummm..... maybe some type of sensitizing lube or something you haven't tried yet just so it will freshin it up a bit, give it just a little bit of a different sensation when you are done taking care of her. Honestly though I'm 21 soooooo well you know, I'm just pulling ideas outta my butt no real 1st hand experience with that speed bump yet.
Just don't get too worked up over it or it will make matters worse I'm sure you will figure it alllll out.

**HardRocker** · 11-11-09, 06:03PM

People in their 20s shouldn't need a boost. If it persists a medical checkup is a good idea. It's one of the first signs of diabetes. These days with so many people getting too... overweight... just sayin'

SavvyStud917 · 11-11-09, 06:11PM

Ya HardRocker but........ those are 5 things that have always helped get the girls....well for me at least I'd be lost if I couldn't pick up my new weekly porn move and then some whisky to convince her to let me try it.

EDIT!!! Ok your right that was my fault for not gathering proper information 1st i didnt look at his age

**HardRocker** · 11-12-09, 06:00AM

Studly, I still haven't stopped any of those things either if that makes you feel any better.

SavvyStud917 · 11-12-09, 06:44AM

Lol Studly... nice this is the 1st site iv ever used this user name for i think i used the same one for like 8 years and Savvy is only one letter off my last name so it works .. but ya that dose make me feel better actually, and speakin of feeling better, Rocky any positive news yet?? keepin my fingers crossed for ya man.

izint · 11-27-09, 04:31PM

never had this happen to me, but so is it before she makes you cum?

rockyraccoon2 · 11-28-09, 10:57AM

Ok, I think it was the fact that I had masturbated earlier that day and had a lot of wine right before.

On the second time, I was able to get erection instantly. But this time, I shortened foreplay a lot and just put it in right away for fear that it would go away. But she was very dry so it actually hurt my penis (didn't use condom). I thrusted really hard trying to give it all I got, but my penis eventually went numb from the pain.

She seemed to be fine with it, and then wanted to get on top and ride me. But by then I had already been thrusting for a while, and when I turned over, the numbness made me lose erection. Also gravity doesn't help.

I then went down on her and after a little, I got hard again (I get really turned on going down on her), and she rode me for a while, but I think the pain and numbness was still in effect and I couldn't really feel much, and after a while I lost it again.

I think it was just the initial dryness and too much friction. Next time I will use a lubricated condom or put lube first. The sex didn't feel good. Our relationship is also not very intimate on other levels. I think we will break up.

**Cowboy Lover** · 11-29-09, 06:49AM

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Originally Posted by rockyraccoon2

Ok, I think it was the fact that I had masturbated earlier that day and had a lot of wine right before.

On the second time, I was able to get erection instantly. But this time, I shortened foreplay a lot and just put it in right away for fear that it would go away. But she was very dry so it actually hurt my penis (didn't use condom). I thrusted really hard trying to give it all I got, but my penis eventually went numb from the pain.

I know you said she said she was fine with you pounding her when she was dry, but I have to wonder about that. I know from personal experience that having ANYTHING pumping inside of my vagaina when it's dry hurts and brings no sexual satisfaction at all. That could be why she can't orgasm when you have sex.

Since you have only had sex with her twice, you still have a lot of work to do to get to know each other's bodies, what feels good, what doesn't. In order to do that, you need to take the time it requires. I would not suggest you go humping at her again until you get her wet with her own lubrication, or, as a last resort, use an artificial one. If she's not wet when you penetrate, STOP and work on her some more.

And for the love of god, PUT A CONDOM ON, MAN!

igor · 11-29-09, 12:33PM

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Originally Posted by rockyraccoon2

she was very dry so it actually hurt my penis (didn't use condom). I thrusted really hard trying to give it all I got, but my penis eventually went numb from the pain. I think the pain and numbness was still in effect and I couldn't really feel much, and after a while I lost it again. The sex didn't feel good.

What were you thinking man? If you had pain (which has never happened to me) think about what she was feeling.

sinfinity · 11-29-09, 04:30PM

Yeah. That's ridiculous. Are you new to sex or something? She was probably just saying it was fine because she didn't want to hurt your feelings.

rockyraccoon2 · 11-30-09, 05:12PM

Yes I'm new. She moaned passionately and kissed and bit my neck. And after my being on top for a while, she asked to get on top. There wasn't even a slight hint of her feeling discomfort. Maybe she was hiding it but she would deserve an oscar.

Fliteskates · 12-01-09, 08:56AM

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Originally Posted by rockyraccoon2

Ok, I think it was the fact that I had masturbated earlier that day and had a lot of wine right before.

On the second time, I was able to get erection instantly. But this time, I shortened foreplay a lot and just put it in right away for fear that it would go away. But she was very dry so it actually hurt my penis (didn't use condom). I thrusted really hard trying to give it all I got, but my penis eventually went numb from the pain.

She seemed to be fine with it, and then wanted to get on top and ride me. But by then I had already been thrusting for a while, and when I turned over, the numbness made me lose erection. Also gravity doesn't help.

I then went down on her and after a little, I got hard again (I get really turned on going down on her), and she rode me for a while, but I think the pain and numbness was still in effect and I couldn't really feel much, and after a while I lost it again.

I think it was just the initial dryness and too much friction. Next time I will use a lubricated condom or put lube first. The sex didn't feel good. Our relationship is also not very intimate on other levels. I think we will break up.

Ok this happens all the time.. so first relax.

Whenever you go down on a girl for awhile, you aren't going to stay rock hard the entire time. I lose my hard on all the time when I do it for 10, 15+ minutes.

It's pretty easy to get hard again, once you know how to handle it. Basically I use three methods that always work, it's just knowing which one to use, then you are gold.

- Method 1, if you are semi soft and can't penetrate her, ask her to give you a BJ for a couple of minutes. This has always worked for me without fail.

- Method 2, when you are down there eating her out and you are ready to go inside her, start stroking yourself while you are still eating her out, and visualize what you are going to do next and how good it feels... this will usually get you hard enough for penetration.

- Method 3, if you put her legs on your shoulders, it makes it much easier to penetrate her when you aren't sporting a big hard on. I've used this method tons of times and it works great. Within 30s or less after being inside her, I am fully hard again.

It is all practice and repetition.. and knowing what your dick can and can't do.

You will learn when you are too soft to even penetrate her with the shoulders on the legs method, so you can a) ask for a bj or b.) manually stimulate yourself.

Using one of those three tricks should almost always work for you.

rockyraccoon2 · 12-03-09, 11:21AM

Wow that's really good advice. Thanks!!