Understanding Fetishes

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I ment to quote the second part of Flame's post.

You're absolutely right. Had some wonderful adventures with some wonderful mistresses in my time.

Question: Does he react that way to EVERY fantasy and fetish you've ever shared?

Let's assume the original premise is true - that EVERYONE has fetishes. The key is to identify those which the other partner is willing to accommodate (better yet, those which the other partner enjoys indulging), and focus on those.

Once in a while, I hear of a tragedy, where one partner has an extremely active imagination and fierce libido, who is coupled with someone who is woefully unimaginative and prudish. Those relationships often end bitterly and disastrously.

Hopefully, though, there is some "middle ground" in your relationship, where you can still feel fulfilled and satisfied - even if a few of the fantasies in your inventory remain strictly in your fantasy life, there are still enough being acted out to keep you happy and fulfilled.

The wikipedia article defines a sexual fetish as being 'is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object'.

Which is actually what I've always defined it as... So if someone is turned on by the idea of a woman in boots, that would be a fetish... However if someone is into being tied up and what not, then that's something different

Mistress is not a paying profession as far as I know !!

I did not say anything about paying for sex.

Some people might have to pay to have a mistress. It might pay to be a mistress.

"Hey, whoa. I can't let my wife do that with her mouth. She still has to kiss my kids at the end of the night."

A mistress is not a prostitute. Actually, my marriage wouldn't have survived without my first mistress, as she was a wonderful vent for my sexual frustration and she gave me the tools to fix things up at home.

As far as paying for sex goes, I have been there and done that and the most remarkable sexual experiences of my life are all with prostitutes. It always amazed me at that time that these young and attractive women were such sexual predators with me, a paying client, and yet the girlfriends I had didn't come close. And it wasn't a huge leap of logic that their prior boyfriends hadn't experienced the same thing either. I think women generally take a lot of pride in what they do, and that includes being paid for sex, and this means that clients are getting a raunchier, freer and more open type of sex. Men I think, aren't so dedicated with their jobs or professions.

This is why men pay for sex, because it is may the best sex they will enjoy in their lives.