Fantasy to watch my wife with another man?

OK, I have never "posted" to this or ANY other board, so here goes. I'm trying to figure out why I'm so fucked up that I have this secret fantasy to watch my wife fuck another man, most likely in a threesome type situation. Where does this stem from? I have been very happily married to her for 20 years with an awesome sex life, but this has just recently risen to the surface. Thankfully, my wife is very cool and didn't freak out on me when we were talking recently about our sex life and I brought it up. She said that she might be open to it (if it really meant that much to me) but it would need to be SUPER thought out, etc. She mostly says "that sounds like a fantasy that will probably just never come true" based on possible jealousy issues, drama, etc. I am not bi-sexual, I have NO interest in touching another dude, but I want to see the pleasure on my wife's face while getting it on with another man while I am with her....what the fuck is wrong with me? It is my "go-to" fantasy when I am masturbating on my own, especially when I want to finish quickly....HELP!! And please do not reply to this post with things like "well where do you live, I will come help you, HAHA!"...I am serious.

A lot of guys (and girls) have this fantasy.......wether it comes to fruition or not depends on those involved and if they both share the same thoughts.

I'm sure others will be along soon to offer their thoughts as well....

I have moved this thread to the fantasy section ok....

Welcome to SF haircop....

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you? Fantasies are a very important part of a sexual being, and the one you are relaying is very common. I think it is super great that you already talked to your wife about it, and that she welcomes the fantasy into your bed. It sounds like the two of you have excellent communication, which is essential for a great sex life. Keep it a fantasy unless you are positive that any ventures in this direction can result in not only sexual pleasure while keeping your marriage strong and intact. I have personal experience with this if you would like to PM me.

Welcome to SF

maybe you just like the thought of watching your wife in action?

ive always wondered why it's not enough to maybe just record yourselves fucking and watch her fuck you but hey, what floats your boat

Lots of men have this fantasy, and often it involves a well-hung man as well. I have been there as the well-hung man with the other man's wife, and he did, truly, get off on watching his wife and I have sex. Not get off in a masturbation sense; that would have been too freaky for moi. No, he was at the end of the bed, watching... I'm not sure what happened after we finished and recovered, and after I left. Maybe he fucked her senseless, who knows?

I have a couple of theories: one is that he is giving the woman he loves something he can't give her himself. The other is along the lines of somewhatlovely, and that is the excitement of watching your wife in action.

In the scenario I was involved in I felt the fantasy was about both: size and watching.

In my case it was hot being the centre of attention like that: knowing this guy was watching her and me, watching me and every stroke! But that's another fantasy, I think.

Hi haircop, this is actually a very common desire/fantasy and there are many threads on the subject here if you have time to check around.
Personally I do not understand the motivation(s) involved but as SWL said "whatever rocks your boat".

Lead me not into temptation........
I know my way there all too well

In Dog I trust

Not my cup of tea. I could not watch or even think of the one I love fucking another guy. But that's my opinion and maybe my Italian jealousy but to each their own and if it works for you and yours then damn have fun and be safe.

If a man says something in the woods and there are no women around to hear him, is he still wrong?

yes very common indeed. for me it stemed from a desire to share my hot wife with someone else. to have her show some one other than me that she is sexualy atractive and that men really want her.
we are actualy planning our third outing now.
take your time and be openminded and I think you will be pleasently suprised at how much fun your missing. your wife will need to have this desire as well and she should pick her partner. sorta like skins and shirts I recomend you all look over a couple of the swinger lifestyle sites to see if your intrest is real or only fantasy . my wife was the one that came to me with the idea and I have had a great time indulging in her wishes.

The faster we go, the hotter she gets

hey there welcome to sf!!!!

i too have this fantasy, it is at the top and what i use to cum quickly while jacking alone as well. i know how you feel i want as far to tell her i wouldnt be around while it happened,so abit over a year ago she agreed to give head to an old friend of her's, i was so turned on i couldnt take it and went out there and watched, it was so hott, couple months later she actually wanted to blow us at the same time, and she did. i took a condom hoping to go all the way, but we both came before anything. it was hot hot hot!!!!and is wat i think about when i jack off.unfortunately he wanted more and more and wouldnt leave her alone so we cut him out of our lifes.i dont know what it is, i mean i dont get the same feeling when i watch our own porn,its just the idea that my amazing woman is sharing her greatness with other men, i dont know it just feels great and drive me crazy!!!!

Not only is it a common fantasy, there are several couples that actually engage in it. Just look at some of the cuckold websites out there. It is practised in a variety of scenarios encompassing a full range of intensity regarding domination, humiliation, participation, etc.
I have participated with a few couples at the softer end of the cuck spectrum. Every instance proved to be very enjoyable for all involved.
Like others have said, "whatever floats your boat".

An erection doesn't count as personal growth.

I have enjoyed the experience of seeing my wife being fucked by another man, and its a real epic turn on - well for me it is! Watching my wife's facial expressions as she's being entered by another man is so hot, hearing her moan as she's being fucked by another man increases the pleasure factor also(as I'm writing this I'm getting an erection!). Getting close to the action is inspirational! I adore watching another man's cock enter her sweet pussy and if I can I also participate by licking her pussy as she's being fucked. if the man is OK about I suck him too! Its liberating not to be confined within set limits which society places upon us, we are "conditioned" to behave/conform to a set pattern and for those of us who dare step outside those "accepted" boundaries, the intolerance can be shocking! To finish on a positive note, an ex gf of mine once entertained myself and two friends, now that was something special!

namaste:-)

Could also be an outlet for cheating. Many men don't want to cheat, but still want novelty in their relationship. Because they don't allow themselves to cheat it may come out in other ways i.e. the wife becomes the 'cheater' - the man gets off because his sexual feelings are so wrapped up in hers.

It's a pretty common fantasy topic on a lot of boards and definately some hot stuff. However, that shouldn't take away from your fantasy at all. It's a special occassion whenever we choose to share anything so personally. I'm not sure we would actually do it, but we do talk about it.

I have many fantasies involving my wife and other men and/or couples. Let me say she is 17 yrs. younger than me. I would love to watch her fuck younger men hung bigger than me (not so big it hurts her), preferably black men (black on white is a huge turn on for me). I would be willing to lick her clean and such him clean and hard for a 2nd go-around if she wanted me to. I'd also love to watch her and another girl play and eat each other. We have talked about all this and the idea turns her on but she has not agreed to any of it. To talk about these fantasies does lead to some totally awesome sex sessions for us both.

Eat dessert 1st live is so indefinite!

Like others have stated, this is a common fantasy amongst men, and you are not fucked up. It's pretty cool that your wife left the door open a crack saying she might be open to it. I'll tell you I've been involved in a MFM threesome twice in my life. Once with my former wife (of 12+ years); and another with a g/f from several years ago. Although neither lived up to the fantasy, both were fun and non-threatening. Having said that, both women are former relationships, so to what degree the threesome experience played into it is still not something I am sure of. You do have to accept the fact that experimenting with such things can go wrong, but then again, if a relationship is going stale, maybe this hastens the inevitable anyway. I cannot answer for you, but for me there are multiple reasons why the MFM fantasy turns me on. Number One, to make things exciting in a relationship. After being with the same woman for months/years, I'm sorry but whether you have a strong love and commitment or not, things do get stale and boring with just the plain vanilla sex that many out there are content with. Many of the things others do to spice up their sex lives are boring to me, but sex with another person is a bit dangerous, and therefore more exciting. Maybe you too have it in you to want to live life on the edge a bit. Number Two, the evolution of a fetish. I've read that certain fetishes and/or fantasies may be the result of something that occured earlier in a person's life that may have been traumatic; or certain psycho-sexual theory has it that it is replacement for something that was lacking in the early stages of one's development. I am not an expert by any means, however I do recall as a teen, another boy made fun of my penis being small, and calling me names that others heard. Well, truth is, I am actually not small (I am average at 6") and have never had any women in relationships that have ever complained about my size. But the ridicule may have affected me in ways that my logical, rational mind could not compensate for. Thus, for me, there is something within my psyche that wants to have another man with a very large dick pleasing my woman in ways that I cannot. I suppose this borderlines cuckold fantasy, though I am not wanting complete humiliation. And, through the years, this subconscious desire has evolved into a strong fetish, the need to involve large cocks, whether viewing on porn videos, or having large dildos, etc. involved in our sexual play. Most of the women I have been with have indulged me in this, however I am still trying to ascertain whether or not women orgasm more strongly because of larger penises or not. Sometimes I get the feeling they do, but then again, maybe they are getting more turned on because I am getting more turned on. They always tell me the bigger size doesn't matter, but I still wonder. Anyway, to my credit I guess, it does matter to me that they are getting pleasured, and I do want them to have the strongest possible orgasm! Well, these are a few of my thoughts; this is getting longer than I had intended. I'd certainly like to hear more from you or other guys with this proclivity, as it is rather fascinating, don't your think?!?! hahaha