Fantasy to watch my wife with another man?

Originally Posted by JTS

Like others have stated, this is a common fantasy amongst men, and you are not fucked up. It's pretty cool that your wife left the door open a crack saying she might be open to it. I'll tell you I've been involved in a MFM threesome twice in my life. Once with my former wife (of 12+ years); and another with a g/f from several years ago. Although neither lived up to the fantasy, both were fun and non-threatening. Having said that, both women are former relationships, so to what degree the threesome experience played into it is still not something I am sure of. You do have to accept the fact that experimenting with such things can go wrong, but then again, if a relationship is going stale, maybe this hastens the inevitable anyway. I cannot answer for you, but for me there are multiple reasons why the MFM fantasy turns me on. Number One, to make things exciting in a relationship. After being with the same woman for months/years, I'm sorry but whether you have a strong love and commitment or not, things do get stale and boring with just the plain vanilla sex that many out there are content with. Many of the things others do to spice up their sex lives are boring to me, but sex with another person is a bit dangerous, and therefore more exciting. Maybe you too have it in you to want to live life on the edge a bit. Number Two, the evolution of a fetish. I've read that certain fetishes and/or fantasies may be the result of something that occured earlier in a person's life that may have been traumatic; or certain psycho-sexual theory has it that it is replacement for something that was lacking in the early stages of one's development. I am not an expert by any means, however I do recall as a teen, another boy made fun of my penis being small, and calling me names that others heard. Well, truth is, I am actually not small (I am average at 6") and have never had any women in relationships that have ever complained about my size. But the ridicule may have affected me in ways that my logical, rational mind could not compensate for. Thus, for me, there is something within my psyche that wants to have another man with a very large dick pleasing my woman in ways that I cannot. I suppose this borderlines cuckold fantasy, though I am not wanting complete humiliation. And, through the years, this subconscious desire has evolved into a strong fetish, the need to involve large cocks, whether viewing on porn videos, or having large dildos, etc. involved in our sexual play. Most of the women I have been with have indulged me in this, however I am still trying to ascertain whether or not women orgasm more strongly because of larger penises or not. Sometimes I get the feeling they do, but then again, maybe they are getting more turned on because I am getting more turned on. They always tell me the bigger size doesn't matter, but I still wonder. Anyway, to my credit I guess, it does matter to me that they are getting pleasured, and I do want them to have the strongest possible orgasm! Well, these are a few of my thoughts; this is getting longer than I had intended. I'd certainly like to hear more from you or other guys with this proclivity, as it is rather fascinating, don't your think?!?! hahaha

Originally Posted by missie

Nope your not fucked up and a lot of guys have this fantasy.

what gets me though is you say



If your wife isn't keen on the idea and is doing it for you, you may not get the reaction from her that you are wanting

Originally Posted by cbrmale

JTS,
I posted before I've had quite a few heterosexual threesomes of this type, and I"m the man with the big cock. In all cases the husband of the woman expressed a desire for a threesome including a large penis and let her choose the man, or actually contacted me first before telling his wife. The other ingredients had to be there as well, and my cock size wasn't ever going to get me across the line on it's own.

I do enjoy these threesomes from a number of perspectives. I like the ultimate pleasure a woman gets from being ravished by two men! I like to watch a couple fucking on the same bed after I've had my turn and before I have my next turn. I like it when I'm being watched while a fuck a hot woman who's having a great time. The first one, the pleasure women get from this, is what does it most for me, but the husbands obviously have a thing about large penises and, to an extent, talk their wives into a threesome in order to resolve this fantasy.

All of the threesomes have been wonderful, all of the women had great times (sounds like a fantasy, but it's true), and I don't think any of the relationships would have suffered as a result of once-off sex with me. They had their fantasy, and I had the feeling that if things were going to go any further, it would have been two-couple swinging as the next step.

Originally Posted by cbrmale

The pre-sex conversations have been, from the wife's perspective, he wanted us to and I agreed, and sometimes he said it had to be with a guy with a big cock. I have a profile on a swingers Internet site and it has both pictures of my body and my cock, and some words about me including my dimensions. It's well-written, as I'm a published author so I know how to build a nice, flowing paragraph or three.

I also emphasise that I'm mature and professional.

No woman has ever mentioned sex being better because of my size, and the most recent said, when asked by her husband when we were in the spa afterwards, that it didn't make any difference (it may or it may not, but it was very mature for thing for her to say).

EVERY SINGLE WOMAN WAS UNBELIEVABLY HOT FOR THREESOME SEX BY THE TIME WE MET. It didn't matter if it was his fantasy, by the time it was really close to actually DOING IT, they self-professed being 'wet with excitement' and more. They were lovely women, every single one, and if you knew them you'd never know that group sex would turn them on so much! As for me, of course, I'm much more nervous than those women, as you can imagine.

Another common thread was these women were HOT, not in a beauty sense but in totally being into great sex sense. Not like my wife, not like women I used to date, to be true not like any women I've ever known. Their husbands may have had the fantasy, but they also knew their wives were up to it, and more (much more as I posted before, and I'm almost certain that multiple couple swinging would have been the next step for those lucky couples).

So, in short, it takes a certain type of woman.

Originally Posted by cbrmale

Lots of men have this fantasy, and often it involves a well-hung man as well. I have been there as the well-hung man with the other man's wife, and he did, truly, get off on watching his wife and I have sex. Not get off in a masturbation sense; that would have been too freaky for moi. No, he was at the end of the bed, watching... I'm not sure what happened after we finished and recovered, and after I left. Maybe he fucked her senseless, who knows?

I have a couple of theories: one is that he is giving the woman he loves something he can't give her himself. The other is along the lines of somewhatlovely, and that is the excitement of watching your wife in action.

In the scenario I was involved in I felt the fantasy was about both: size and watching.

In my case it was hot being the centre of attention like that: knowing this guy was watching her and me, watching me and every stroke! But that's another fantasy, I think.

Originally Posted by Peteher

I'm straight with a smoking hot little wife. I have the same fantasy and have shared her with a friend a few times. Seeing her dressed up sitting on his lap then us sharing her was the biggest turn on ever!