? for the ladies: Do nice guys finish first or last in your book and why?

My wife had dated a couple of men in quick succession, and before that she had two long-term boyfriends in her home country. I asked her why not any of those men, and she said they were 'nice'.

I treated the girls I dated well, not a pushover though, but I knew how to stir up crap, drag raced, no stranger to fights on and off the ice, liked to harrass cops and who ever I could, never arrested, but not for a lack of reasons. So is that nice or bad boy?

I think it depends largely on what stage of life we're talking about. Teenagers? In my experience, nice guys finished closer to the back of the pack. Into the 20's, the nice guys started making up ground, especially when marriage entered the equation. Moving into the 30's, as both parties looked for even more security/stability, I think both sexes favored "nicer" partners. Bad boys may be fun, but when you're looking for someone to pay the bills and raise a family, "nicer" guys probably look a whole lot more appealing.

On the other hand, I may be entirely wrong.

I don't think you are wrong at all. I have heard relationship advisers and serious studies suggesting the same thing. It doesn't mean that this is the final word on the matter, but it sounds reasonable enough. By the way, I think some teenage girls date bad boys at least partly to spite their parents.

I think it is very true that Nice Guys are often overlooked in the beginning, women are pulled in by the flirtatous daring bad boy -usually to get hurt down the road with his flirtatousness with many other women besides just her. I feel if the Nice Guy is blessed enough to find a female partner who adores his qualities & can compliment his personality with her differences, one who will not take advantage of him & apprecaite him - Nice Guys are the Ultimate type of men to marry!!! And if they are good looking, my God, you have truly hit the Jack pot. I know cause I married one of these. He was dumped a few times before he found me, he had big bulky glasses that hid his attractiveness -but I saw through that. I was only 15 when we met.

He is the most loving faithful, wonderful father, financially & mentally stable, I can count on him with my life.

But we are very opposite in temperment -, I am more the aggressive /assertive in our relationship, he has more the patience, the calm during the storm - his weaknesses are my strengths, and My weaknesses are his strenghts, so it works very well for US. I know I could not have married someone like myself, it would likely have been "WAR" , And if he married someone like himself, too much calm.

Great Video about this here ...

YouTube - Why Women Date Bad Boys And Marry Nice Guys

I don't think you could have said that any better.

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