Sex After Breakup/Friends With Benefits

Sorry I haven't been around. I was going through a major funk and had to crawl into a metaphorical hole for a while. As it turns out, the other day Jacob and I were hanging out over here. I went to the kitchen for some water and as soon as I turned around he grabbed me and started being a lot more than friendly. There's a bit more to the story, but I'm kind of pressed for time right now, but since I saw saw that Mitttimer asked, I wanted to post something immediately.

I promise to fill you all in within the next few days.

Okay, so here's the fill-in on the story. Really, it just happened out of the blue. I knew all the time that he was going to come around and want sex again. There's no one else on his list as far as people he trusts, is comfortable with, and just generally prefers. Since then we have been together at least three times, and it's been just great. No feelings have been stirred up, no hesitations. It's simply been the way it was before romantic feelings entered in: two best friends that just happen to prefer to have sex with each other.

As far as my feelings are concerned, I've simply wrapped them up into tight little bundle of a file, and stowed them away in the depths of my brain. The feelings are still there, but they're not readily accessible. I feel totally confident about it. I'm really surprised about how things are going. It's almost as though the romantic episode never happened.

At this point I have no regrets, no worries that complications may crop up. Honestly, I'm quite happy with where things are at the moment.
So would I recommend this another in the same situation? I don't know. I think it boils down to a case-by-case basis.

Again, thank you all for you input and advice. I'd be lost without it.

Good on ya!

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

I hope things work out for you hun.

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Well I was just in the same spot as you. I recently ended it for good with my then ex. He first broke up with me because I wasn't a big boobed woman. I have other assets that men will want. So anyways, I asked him if we could be friends with benefits. He was a little hestitant so I said ok. Several weeks later he decided he wanted it so I agreed.

I am somewhat of a kinky person and he knew this when we first started dating. The only bad part of this friends with benefits is that he wouldn't kiss me. I'm not a bad kisser and haven't had any complaints but he wouldn't do it while we were friends. I asked him why and he never gave me a straight answer. He would always say I don't know. He asked me a couple of weeks ago if I would be interested in a couples swap and of course I was all for it. So we took pictures and a video on his phone. So I ask him the next day did he reply. He said no and deleted everything! Im like WTF was the point in asking me if you didn't want to act on it. That pissed me off among other things. He was treating me like crap and I don't stand for that.

So this past weekend was the finally straw for me! I told him I wanted to end it altogether. It kind of sucks because we see each other in the mornings when he turns the alarm off for the place I work for but oh well. I'm much happier mow not being with him. Because of him though I have found my new found love of anal sex! I use to hate but I'd rather do that position then any other. Lol

If I could do it all over again I wouldn't only been with him for the occasional fuck and that is it. I was his 1st girlfriend after he separated fr his wife so I think we both moved to fast. But whatever! My life will move on just fine without him in my life!

I can't believe the only reason you're not in a relationship with this guy is because you're boobs aren't big enough for him. Maybe I'm reading this wrong but thats kind of what it sounds like to me.

Did I miss something, did he say something about his boobs being too small? You do realize this is about two dudes, right?

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I'm refering to ready2please, sorry should have specified.