My (lack of a) past

Our bodies are obviously different. Our brains are part of our bodies. I don't see why the male and female brains can't be slightly different. In fact, they almost certainly are:
Discovery Health "Male and Female Brain Structure"

As for the way we think about these things: I wonder if many (most?) men will never be completely content. It's as if we have a little devil on our shoulder telling us "most other men are probably having sex with hotter women than you". I have force myself to think about it rationally to realize that this is probably not true.

It's normal to have doubts, but I do think that if you marry someone you have to have the feeling of 'this is the one'.

I've never had that feeling with any woman I have ever been, which is good, because I would make a lousy husband. However, I've had a few narrow scrapes and almost got married (twice), but thankfully I never did.

You haven't said how old you are. I really believe age is a major factor of whether or not to get married. If you're under 27, I would say wait until you get a few grey hairs before getting married. Remember, being a man has its advantages. We get better looking as we get older and we can date women younger than ourselves too.

In any case think hard and long before deciding to tie the knot.

Yeah, there's nothing sexier than a balding man with a pot belly that thinks he's still got da shit.

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

Well, I still got the shit and I ain't bald and don't have a pot belly

*I've learned that pleasing everyone is impossible,*
*but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake.*

"It just feels, objectively speaking (or as objective as one can get, here), that 2 partners is excessively low.

I never really thought much about it until I started thinking that my future to the possibility of having more could close off. Mainly because I don't want to be older and wishing that I would have done more while younger."

One thing about regrets, they will always be regrets. Personally I think 2 is excessively low for your age. By the time I was 30yrs. old, I had been with 86 women, and I still have regrets, but have been true to the same woman for 23 years now..........yes, I remember each and every one of them, with respect and admiration. It was easier for me than others, as I traveled the globe, and there are many fish in the sea. I guess what I'm saying is, live your life now, while you can, whichever way you decide, good luck on your decision making.

My guy's 46 and has only been with 3 women (counting me). He's not bothered by it in the least.

I think the amount of sexual partners a person has is really dependent on how they were brought up. One girlfriend I had had only 6 in her whole life because she was raised to value her body. She also came from a stable home.

Another girlfriend had 13, came from a broken home (father walked out on his own kids to hook up with a woman who had kids of her own whom he then supported while doing nothing for his own).

I myself came from a family where my father was into sexual freedom (yet stayed faithful to my mother) and a puritanical mother who cheated on my father numerous times. Go figure. After being told repeatedly from a young age by my parents that marriage and raising children is hell on earth, I've decided to forego the whole marriage thing and prefer being in relationships that have an escape route for me. After my parents divorced my father had a string of girlfriends, and despite being 65 still dates a lot.

My father has always encouraged me to go out into the world and explore and be free. Even my mother says that a lot of women are like a ball-and-chain and feel the need to negatively control men. This has resulted in me being very wary of long-term commitments, especially when I feel that a woman is becoming too needy around me. I've had two long-term relationships (one for 8 years, the other for 3) and they both ended disastrously. The first one I cheated on a lot, including with her best friend. Being a cheater makes you disreputable and a liar and I have learnt that you do a lot of harm to those you love and to yourself too. The second long relationship I went the opposite way and dedicated myself to making her happy. In the end she got used to it and took me for granted. I left her and am now happily single again (after a total of 11 years being in a relationship).

I am living it to the hilt and feel 10 years younger (24 instead of 34). Life is one big adventure again and I can mess around with other women without feeling the guilt of having to be faithful. I have become very self-aware and when a girl comes on to me looking for commitment I make it very clear to her how I will probably never be ready for it and she shouldn't waste time on me. The idea of waking up with the same person for the next 90 years (I'm convinced I will live a long life) fills me with dread. I would much rather have several sexual partners who I am good friends with. However, finding a woman who feels the same way is hard work - I do know a few though.

Back to upbringing again - I also came from a very deprived area of England where, as a young man, you were nothing unless you could prove yourself physically or sexually. Not being of the violent persuasion (I was also quite small as a teenager (luckily I shot up when I was 19)), I chose to chase women instead, and became quite good at it (at least I think I did). I've had many sexual encounters and they've all been good (except for the time I accidentally made out with a Spanish woman who, after the act, told me she was a prostitute and expected me to pay her, and another time when I was unknowingly with a married woman, whose husband walked into the room butt-naked (I'm into kinky stuff, but that one caught me by surprise because I hadn't been consulted)).

I personally feel that the only reason I've had a measly 6 partners is because 3 were/are loooooong term and some men often don't like sharing their woman. The only thing my upbringing has to do with it is that I was raised to be honest. I don't lie to my partners, it's not in my nature. One long term relationship was open, (he encouraged me to sleep with a friend for over two years). The second one he cheated but I stayed faithful. The current one is monogamous. If this relationship lasts, I may never have sex with anyone else. Numbers really mean nothing at all without knowing the circumstances.

I can undertsand that but would you rather be lonley and pussyless

Marriage is not about sex, but love and respect. I was married for a very long time and we had excellent sex. Still didnt make it. Our marriage was based upon lust, not love therefore the split. Anyone who gets married based upon good sex is crazy. As I read in a book..."your pussy is not made of gold. No matter how good you are in bed, you can be replaced."