blow job help

I have been curious about guys for some time me being a guy myself i love having sex with women but i had to try a guy out. so i met the guy and we have been on a couple of dates and he is awesome we can connect in ways that me and a woman cant but in other ways women are better than guys. but i want to continue this relationship with him. i love kissing him and touching him and being touched. we have be dating for 3 monthes and i think im ready give him a blow job. but i just dont know how i have never done it before. so any help?

wow! First off, congrats on being open minded enough to explore this area of your sexuality. Sounds like you're a true born bisexual, which means you have the best of both worlds.

As for your question: Does your guy friend know he's the first man you've even gone down on? And do you have any reason to hide this fact from him?
If not, I'd suggest you use that to your advantage. He might just enjoy the power of being your teacher and guiding you through it, instructing you in what to do and how to do it.

What did you enjoy most about BJs you've received in the past? Why not try those techniques out on him?

Try doing a search on some of the porn tube sites and see what techinques others use.....

Ok I have a confession I'm really not in a realationship with a guy and never have been. Guys get me excited and so do girls Ik that I want to spend my life with a woman but I feel if i dont at least try guys once it will nag me for the rest of my life. Idk how to go about trying guys Idk how to me gays or how to act really. I feel like if i do try guys and people find out i will be labeled gay forever even though when girls experiment its just that experimenting. I just need advice on how to go about these feelings.

I understand where you're coming from. I went through the same thing when I was a teenager. When the opportunity arose for me to experiment with another girl, I knew I had to try it or it would nag me for the rest of my life. Unfortunately we lived in a very narrow-minded Christian community and were immediately labelled "lesbians" for life, even though we're both straight.

I totally agree: there's much more of a stigma attached to men experimenting with other men than women with women. Such is the world we live in. Stupid, I know, but there you have it.

I know it's hard to turn down the volume on the majority's opinion, but at the end of the day you've got to be true to yourself and if you're always worried about "what others will think" then you're in for a very unfulfilling and dull life indeed.

It sounds to me like you're either bi or at least bi curious, and if you don't explore these feelings now you'll probably end up doing so at some point down the road. Trust is important and when you're experimenting, follow your gut. It's important that your partner know your situation and that you can rely on him to be discreet.

It kind of sucks that you chose to bullshit us, Chickenfeet. I mean, this is an anonymous forum, so what's the point of lying? Doing so kills your credibility, you know that, right?

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

I admire the fact that he confessed to it though personally... most people would just get tangled up in a mess of lies that made no sense. Web forums can be particularly bad for that.

You know, you are right. After reading what I wrote, I realize how harsh I was. It's just that, in recent months a lot of posers and players have been joining the forums and I'm getting tired of the games.

Sorry, Chickenfeet.

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

Yes, I know...been on one of these forums once way back. We need genuine people on here as much as possible. I am a super nice guy passing some spare time here and hope it turns out good. Like I said, I would rather have joined *link deleted*but they seem to have technical issues. *link deleted*

I hate to stay off topic here and forgive me if im wrong but why does it seem like your plugging that web site in your posts?

Oh good there deleted! Thank you to whoever did that

Go for it. One of three things will happen: 1) You will love it and discover a whole new dimension to your sexuality (as I did). 2) You'll do it but feel whatever about it. Done. Okay, back to girls. 3) You won't be able to go through with it.

But you owe it to yourself to find out.

Do you have any gay friends? Personally, I think everyone should have a gay friend like mine. I had a gay roommate in college named Jeff. He was one of the best people I've ever known and he was completely open about his sexuality. We had a mutual friend named Seth who was having thoughts very similar to your own. He asked Jeff what he thought and if that's how he felt before he realized he was gay. Jeff thought he just sounded very confused and curious. He told him that to have sex with an anonymous stranger just to find out if his feelings are justified or valid is dangerous, and that, if he felt comfortable, he'd take him on a little self-realization journey. No feelings, no risk, just answers.

The next day I had breakfast with Seth before we hit the gym and he just blurted out... "Well, I'm gay..." To which I replied, "We'll take my car to the gym. I can't stand listening to Barbra Streisand." We both had a laugh and that was the end of it.

I don't know your friends, but personally I respect Seth a ton for having the guts to do what he did; and Jeff for being the friend that Seth needed him to be. And I know Seth is more confident and comfortable for it. He didn't change as a person. He doesn't act or behave any differently, other than liking to have sex with guys. Which is fine with me and all of our other friends. The path to self-realization may be bumpy and risky. Just remember that you have to make yourself happy first. And that should result in the people who care about you feeling happy for you. If it doesn't, then maybe they don't care for you as much as they say they do.

Just be careful and see. You'll never know until you do it. I didn't know what sex with a woman was like until I had sex with a woman. Now I really love to do it. Problem solved.

Live your life fearless of other people. Caution and wariness have their place, but fear is an inhibitor of life.
~Steve

Me: Um, are you okay Baby?
Her: Hin... hit... ...an'... sheets... ...hummm...

Me: ...I'll take that as a yes.
9-26-2010

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