Frequency of Sex.

Do you think people can be grouped into the amount of times that is right for them and would they be more compatiable with people from that group?

If you do it by the numbers and group individuals into their preferred sexual frequency, then would relationships between couples from similar groups be more likely to succeed? That is how I interperet the question.

My answer is maybe, if they share all of the other qualities that would be a foundation for friendship. Otherwise, I think relationships, just because they have similar sexual drives, will probably be a flash in the pan. That, in itself, is not a foundation for a long term relationship.

Now, tell us more about why you want to know this, RC. Just curious, you know.

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Well I am trying to understand the differences in people and why some of them want sex all the time and others only occasionally

If you are only talking sex (in other words completely compatible in all other aspects of the relationship) I'd say yes.

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There are too many reasons we have different drives. We are just wired differently.

ILLIGITIMI NON CARBORUNDUM !

Every 3 days or so..Give or take. I don't see her between times so I'm not sure how that would change + or - if I saw her more often.

if I had my choice it would be a flux between every other day to maybe a 4 day break. any more and I'd get antsy.. Lol.

3-4 times per week on average. I'm 29, she's 27...we've been together 8 months...living together for 3 months now.

2x per week if things are slow (sickness, period, busy schedules,etc). Once in a while more than 4 times per week if she is extra horny.

The frequency of sex is a concern to me because I don't want my woman walking around horny. Aslo, I don't want to be walking around horney, either.

My wife seems to get more accomodating later in the evening, and has little interest in sex during the day. Maybe a half hour before her alarm clock goes off, is the end of her arousal period.

So I am not sure how often my wife needs sex, to avoid getting horny during the day. I try to be sensitive to the moods of my wife, and what gets her aroused. I don't think a specific number of times per month or week or year is particularly important for a couple, but rather what sex means in the context of their time together.

I think that my being more assertive, in starting arousal processes, serves the intersts of a fathful relationship. Being pushy about sex is probably a disservice to fidelity.

I enjoy just cuddling with my wife, sex is not the only communication of Love.

It would be hard to estimate how many times a woman will desire sex, because hormones are active in the teenage years, and after having a child or three, the hormones calm down.

Understanding couples sometimes work out supplemental maturbation arrangements, when there is a difference in the frequency of desire for sex.

The difference in the desire for frequency of sex may be a frequent complaint in couples who divorce, but those complaints may be more a reflection of an overall inabiltiy to accomodate their partner, on several levels, rather than a real problem with the difference in the frequency of desire for sex.


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I've noticed many women's hormones are more rampant after childbirth. However opportunity and energy levels are lessened when there's children in the house.

There's nothing wrong with being horny during the day. It's quite a pleasant feeling and doesn't always need to be acted upon.

Sex is icing on the cake my friend. So long as you got it sometime, its all good..


Couples who have sex too often sometimes dont even enjoy it, it becomes routine..

There are ways of making are sexual encounters so exciting for both partners that one session will satisfy for a week.

Role play with a bottle of vodka, Good things will happen!

I'm 26, my husband is 24 we have been together for 2 years and married for 1 year. We have a very adveturous sex life which I believe keeps the excitement and the thrill in it for us. We have sex at least once per day, I don't understand couples who lose interest in eachother sexually but I guess everyone is different !

For us after 25 years of marriage, every 2 or 3 days, or 3 times per week. Sunday afternoons is usually set aside, and that can sometimes be routine but it can also be adventurous. Roleplay, a bit of BDSM, playing a game where we both win, outdoors sex in the summer, and anything else I can think up.

For sure as the years pass, anything done thousands of times would get routine. But it doesn't take too much effort to spice things up.

For Queenannie: the couples who lose interest in sex are in the majority and the couples who remain sexual over decades are in the minority. I think part of the problem is with many men who begin to overlook the non-sexual parts of the relationship: which includes helping out, being romantic, suprising their wives with something special. Part of the problem is with many women who don't communicate their needs, wants, desires and disappointments. Instead, feeling frustrated, they turn away from sex.

It takes effort in all ways to have to good relationship, and good sex within that relationship. Sex can be considered a barometer to a relationship's health, while at the same time it brings couples together and reinforces the love they feel for one-another.

The other thing that sex does is increase testosterone in both men and women, which increases sex drive, which means more sex, and so on. The converse is true, of course, less sex means less desire for sex, and so on.

It depends so much on who I am with and circumstances.
Early on in a relationship it tends to be slow for a while until we get the measure of one another but the when we do it is full on as often as opportunities present.
My last three lovers have all been sexually rampant in their appetite and it has been me or at least my body which has been moderating.
I have recently been in a live-in relationship for 5 months and in that time we have gone from 5 or more times a day to once every second day or so and again that is due to my body's limitation for sustained erection. My current partner has to have at least two orgasms a day; one in the morning and one for her to be able to sleep in the evening but in addition she sometimes sneaks in another privately at lunchtime.
I often assist her in her "wanking" sessions as she calls it.
She is totally uninhibited and revels in her sexuality.
I adore her

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32 years of marriage for me, it was all the time until kids came and that really slowed it down, then when she hit menopause it sped up again, but gradually started to dwindle to seldom but health problems are a factor. But we do snuggle and hold hands and such a lot. I am retired and would like it more but she still works and is always tired. Maybe when she retires in a few years it will pick up again.