Just my two cents....

It seemed like back in high school, there was an abundant supply of attractive, single females. I finally found one that I wanted to date, and bam! I had a girlfriend. We both were saving our virginity for marriage, we both were in the relationship for marriage.... and we both realized that getting married while in college just wasn't wise.

Fast-forward to 5 years later. I'm almost out of college, one semester to go. She starts getting flaky and acting like a different person. One night, she decides to cheat on me, and bam! No girlfriend.

At that point, I was essentially in the same boat as you, except I had emotional baggage too. Where did all those girls from high school go? Half were married (some already divorced and remarried), some were pregnant, some were still living out their college fantasies. I had no way to meet women, no friends that were interested in hooking me up... So I just started talking to people, making new friends, working on my emotional baggage, etc.

It took 2 years before I met anyone that I even considered dating. The first girl wouldn't let go of her ex, even though she was interested in me. The next girl said yes to a date, but then got cold feet and came up with a lame excuse to cancel. I found out later that her ex had turned into a stalker near the end of their relationship, so she had some trust issues with men.

Finally, I "gave into" the advances of a girl that had been pursuing me on and off for about 6 months. I had been hesitant, not because she wasn't beautiful or smart or fun, but because I didn't think we would be compatible.

My advice: meet new people. Don't write off old people. Take chances. It worked for me. The girl that I hesitated on for 6 months turned out to be perfect for me, and soon we will be married. We are both virgins, and we both view it as a positive thing.