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Originally Posted by SteveWaste  Young Gun,
Without making any guesses as to your character or tendencies, most young men who don't have much interaction time with females have generally replaced that chunk of their daily or weekly time with something else that they don't necessarily see as conflicting (school activities, sports, compulsive studying, gaming, sticking to a very tight knit network of friends, etc...) Engaging in these replacement activities daily ensures very little contact, and also ensures very little variance in routine. Every day seems pretty much the same and they seem to fly by rapidly. Only by breaking the unhealthy balance of replacement activities can some of them begin to engage in relationships that they otherwise did not "have the time for".
I am just curious if this sounds familiar to you at all. It sure was for several of my friends. And from the way you speak of it, you sound like a nice guy who's just got an unhelpful routine that's holding you back.
Hope this helps.
~Steve |
Thanks for the kind words, man. In some ways, it sounds familiar. Especially the part about everyday being exactly the same...that's right on the money. The thing is is, I'm not really
busy. It's just that I'm kind of trapped to be honest. I don't have a car and license (yet), can't find a job in this economy and let's just say my neighborhood isn't the best one to live in if you're 19 years old and interested in the ladies.
I feel like this past year or so has taught me a lot, and that's not to take any opportunities for granted. A few years ago, there were several girls that liked me, but I never really "did" anything about it. I was just always too shy and figured "there will be tomorrow". But you know, now that I know what it's like to never be around women my age I will take a different approach in the future...just don't know when that future will be.
Thanks.