I agree with CL....don't rush, talk through it, and unless you are BOTH willing to concede to each others fantasies coming to life DON'T DO ANYTHING. I was married for 12 years, and I am jaded because I fell into a trap to make my spouse happy. I went first...it went badly, now I am divorced. Make SURE that he can handle what you want and YOU can handle what he wants. If not, be ready for the consequences.

If I had it to do over, I would have said "HELL no" to everything, and just kept it all between the two of us. My experience is not your indicator, but you better make damned sure you both can handle it. Sex is an intimate and special thing. Once you invite outsiders it you have to know how to deal with the fact that it is a shared sport. I suggest STRONGLY that you contact Suite91 on this forum for fantastic advice. Good luck, and keep talking in this forum.....I wish I had been honest.