Aloof is not cool and mysterious, it's like putting a wall around yourself. Flirting is fun! Most girls I have been around like to be flirted with. It is a compliment. They don't spend hours getting all fixed up pretty to have a guy be alouf and seeming uninterested, no, they want attention. They want to know you are interested. Lie the saying goes, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.