| Being Aloof vs. Being Flirty
So I was talking to a buddy of mine the other day and we were discussing how to act around girls. He is a big flirty type guy and he gets pretty many girls despite being only a mediocre looking guy and getting rejected now and then. He basically hits on every girl he sees until he gets lucky and it works. I hate doing this myself, not because I'm not confident really, but because it makes me feel like a total D-bag with the whole "Hey beautiful, what's going on?" routine. I prefer to play it cool and give out the impression that I really don't care about you one way or another (which is honestly how I feel around 85% of women I meet). Now my style sounds crappy and honestly it doesn't get me half as many girls as my friend, even though I really am a good looking guy. However there is a common belief that this is a great way to turn a girl on. Now I'd love this to work, because I really hate being all flirty but I think I need to find the perfect balance. How flirty do you need to be to show you're interested vs. how aloof can you be to come off as cool and mysterious?
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