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Originally Posted by Logger  Relationships are bigger than feelings. Relationships are a committment.
Sounds like he is helping you with sobriety, so that is a positive.
If there are things that he asks you to do that you find difficult, how can you let him know that some things are easy, and some things are difficult for you? How can you suggest doing more of the easy things?
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You pose some very good points to think about, Logger. He is an enormous help with my sobriety. And your relationships are bigger than feelings quote is a good one. I do think that because I have had difficulty getting a job, living in this little studio, it's hard to think, hard to find me.
As I said, I identify my self-esteem so much with my job, that I am a little adrift right now and it is difficult to discern what negative thought goes where--does that make sense (?). I had self-esteem issues with my weight (like practically every woman in America) but I lost weight and he likes the little bit of extra I now have, accepts that everything is pointing toward South America, the stretch marks, scars and stuff, because he says he loves "me". That feels really good. Especially because the last guy I was with was "freaked" by my scars. Didn't freak him out when he was phucking me, but that is another show, lol.
Sometimes I think I am overthinking it--I have been known to overanalyze and beat a dead horse many times.
Thanks again for the ideas to ponder some more. I am going to chill this weekend, just accept and let feelings wash over me and not be so sensitive. I have to work on that--always been a problem.
Hope you have a great weekend!
