htoad and Cowboy Lover (haaaaaayyyyyy - thats what gay horses eat) are right. You can't expect it to just change overnight. ESPECIALLY if she has body issues. Your job is to make her feel sexy. Once she feels sexy, everything will fall into place.
I have been married twice. In my first relationship my ex loathed my dressing even remotely sexy. Looking back he was so incredibly insecure he glowed. He would go so far as to go through my wardrobe and rifle around for items he found questionable and then interrogate me as to why I had them. Seriously.
My current beloved had some work to do, as you can imagine, but he's unleashed the beast. To be honest, I've always been fond of revealing clothing and lingerie, but I never indulged (and first marriage totally messed up my head about it). With his encouragement I have found that I am built for it and am a total ham prancing around for him. My husband is very very happy - he's got the pics and vids to prove it.
Be good to her, as I know that you probably are. Tell her how she makes you feel. It will take just as much energy for you to put in as the pleasure you will get from it.
PS: As someone who once weighed more, head my warning, don't buy her anything. Soooo many issues there. I still don't like my husband knowing my size (but really I'm 3 sizes, am I right ladies?). She might also take it the wrong way and set you back to zero.
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