...I just don't know what to say here.

I'm a woman, I KNOW condoms are fool-proof and neither is birth control because I was oh-so-lucky >.< to get pregnant while using them. I was that statistic even when used properly. I unfortunately lost the child.

It IS possible but if you use the condoms properly, it generally wont. If shes super paranoid, use a spermicidal foam prior to having sex with her?

I think it's ridiculous and I feel bad for you, hun. I can't imagine making my fiancee pull out every time he's about to cum and making him finish off with his hand..that's just...bah. That's not worth the sex. >.<

As far as why she wants you to pull out..even while wearing a condom, I can't even..I can't understand! That's beyond me honestly, even as a woman.

I would