I just want my friend for sex.

Two weeks is an awfully short time to figure out where any sort of relationship or friendship may be headed. Why don't you just be her friend for a while and enjoy each others company. You just came off of a long relationship anyway so you probably need more time to get your head together. If she's intelligent, she knows that too.

Chill out and don't try to be Mr. Cool, you'll end up embarrassing yourself. Just go with the flow, she'll like the real you better... or not. That's the breaks.

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Well, she seems interested in me a lot and that is what I am afraid of. I don't want to keep hanging out with her and then she thinks that the BF/GF thing is coming along good.
Plus, other guys are interfering with us and flirting with her. Aren't girls now and days more open to sex a lot sooner then what it use to be?

Well what's so bad about that? Just tell her you don't want to commit to a relationship since you have not yet recovered from your recent breakup. She should understand that. You might just have to have sex with your hand for a while. That's not a catastrophe either. Use a little restraint; you have years of sex ahead of you. She could be The One for all you know.

I don't think so. When I was in HS and college everybody was fucking everybody else all the fucking time. You couldn't throw a stick without hitting someone who wasn't on the way to or on the way from having sex.

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Agree 100%... 2 weeks is barely enough time to be acquaintances too...

It all sounds very predatory...

You make sex sound like going to the gym for a work out... Nearly every woman i know has feelings and emotions, most women i know dont like being used as a sex object and dont just "give it up" to who ever wants it.....

Not every girl wants a relationship with the guy she is interested in fucking, though.

True, but i dont know many that dont....

Actually I'm currently in a semi-temporary living situation in California and am sleeping with a guy who I knew from the moment I met him was nice, funny, had some attractive qualities, smart, caring, gentle (in the right ways, rough in the right ways too) but partially due to what he and I want out of relationships and the time I intend to spend here we knew immediately nothing would come of it. But we both really enjoy sex. We exchange a few emails/texts throughout the week just to check in. And around three times a week I come over, we cook dinner, talk about what's new, exchange funny anecdotal stories, and fuck. A lot.

I don't know a whole lot about him and that's the way I like it. If I e-mail him and I'm not feeling well he comes over and smokes me out...(oh did I mention I smoke the ganj?) and goes about his business. If we knew more about eachother that's where the problem would begin. For him- I like just fucking him and DON'T want a relationship, but if I knew him better my feelings would be involved....therefore TROUBLE!

See, I could only sleep with a person that I knew and trusted, though that doesn't always mean I'd have to be emotionally involved moreso than one is involved with any friend. My husband and I have had sexual interactions with another couple who are also our great friends. Nothing has ever gotten weird, etc-we talked extensively about what we wanted out of our interactions, and what we did not want, limitations, etc. In the end, I trust them enough to be in that position, and that's what made it work for us. So, it's cool to see how people can be so different. ^_^

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

AMEN, SISTA!!!

I have a feeling that you don't know many women OR the women you hang with don't let you know tell you the truth.

I'm digging your arrangement, Nomad. I wish I had been able to pull that sort of thing off when I was single and at your age. I think it would have saved me from a boatload of heartache, guilt, and confusion in my 20's and early 30's.

Dreama, you and your hubby just get cooler all the time. Sorry I doubted your wisdom in marrying so young. You two sound like a great fit.

CL....Holy shit! You're being agreeable towards me?
I'm scared I'm just waiting for the backlash...

You do know that the two of you can agree on something, right?

Back on-topic, please.

I think your best bet is to just be blunt. That dont mean you have to be rude but dont keep anything from her... She will think of you as a good friend for being honest to her about something so personal. If your honest with her about something like that, she will know she can trust you with things on her mind as well.

Thanks, hun. I know our methods wouldn't work for everyone, but they sure do work for us. *hugs*

Shine on, you crazy diamond.