She says she's not a clit person but she probably means no direct contact on her clit. I would suggest researching oral a bit more. And grinding down on top of you is a lot different than having your mouth down on her cunt, sir.

It's an extremely personal and direct experience. There's the wetness of your mouth - your lips, tongue, teeth to deal with. The fact of knowing that your nose is right there, that your eyes are right there.

We've got a lot more going on down there than males. You get the same basic sensations when we're on top of you, but it's not the same. Your dick doesn't lubricate itself - your mouth does.

So nah. It's not the same. Also, get her to try and ride your face.