Hi guys, thanks for all those messages, I appreciate every one, whether they're catty or kind your honest reactions are what its all about. We have had a talk, which was very painful, but it seems like we're back on track. The communication thing is absolutely key - I mean, the reason I made such snide, hit-and-run style comments was because I feared open honesty, and the tears it would inevitably bring for us. It was both cowardly and counterproductive. Having talked, I realised being aggressive was no way to influence her body shape, since firstly I'm not by her side 24/7, and secondly because that really would be a sucky thing to do. I agreed to shut (*the fuck*) up, and she... didn't really say anything, but has started making small changes.

I'm beginning to understand how hellish it must be to be a woman these days, surrounded by Vogue and Tatler and all these bloody magazines, screaming at you to starve like an ethiopian to look good. If you're not naturally thin, life is a constant, aching struggle. "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels" - Kate Moss said recently. It's horrifying to think of what that means for people's lives; seeing the person for their own inner beauty is obviously the only way forward in a relationship, since beauty fades, and hunger hurts. I'm trying to look to inner beauty much more now, so thanks very much for all of your pointers, it's been a real success so far.