(Mrs Smyth) I have to agree with alot of the comments to be honest, randomly putting her down isnt going to make anything any better or easier, if your saying things that are going to make her feel shit about herself then why is she going to bother making the effort ?

You really need to sit down and talk with her properly because im afraid thats the only way your relationship is going to go anywhere, you need to be open with her about the problem and if you cant do that then whats the point in being with her ?

Relationships are about give and take and its not always perfect but then true love sometimes doesnt run as smoothly as we wish it would.
Just be open and honest with her about how your feeling and im sure she would be open right back, nobody is perfect hun.

But if you love her then respect her enough to be honest, dont just run away because its getting hard because you will end up regretting it if you didnt at least make an effort first.