Create your own sexual language. Words and phrases that only you and your partner understand....For example, the two of you could be in the grocery store and you could whisper in her ear "peanut butter." To everyone else, its peanut butter, but to your mate its giving head in the nearest private or public location. but make sure the two of you truly understand what each word or phrase means. And you must agree in what acts to commit.... Its fun because its a secret, its mysterious, its sexual... obviously, and the two of you select the parameters of each action...This was just off the top of my head...what do you think?