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Originally Posted by johnnyangel694u  Maybe I am interpreting something differently but it seems to both of them have issues. He fell in love with her and she has changed. He noticed the change and made comments to get her to change back. Of course because is he a male the fault is all his.
I think they need to sit down and talk about both sides. Why did she change? He can admit he is a jerk. Do they want to stay together. Maybe she changed to chase him away.
I know one thing for sure. If I made the post and came back and read the responses, I sure wouldn't come back here. Not much compassion. IMHO. Sorry. |
Yes both of them seem to have issues but if the OP's girlfriend is not the one posting, how are we supposed to know what's bothering her. Everybody changes, male or female and making negative comments towards her is not the way to entice her back to his ideal. No one here said the fault was his, purely because he was male. While I don't know what goes on in other posters' minds I do know that I certainly never assumed that.
Talking would be a good idea but it seems that all the talking he is doing is nagging and belittling her to the point that she's happiest in other people's company, not his. She possibly is changing because she feels unattractive inside. It is common for our feelings about ourselves to affect the way we look on the outside.
As for our responses, we only responded to the original post in much the same way as it was presented. If the OP doesn't feel inspired to return, maybe he will understand his partner's feelings.