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Originally Posted by johnnyangel694u  Maybe I am interpreting something differently but it seems to both of them have issues. He fell in love with her and she has changed. He noticed the change and made comments to get her to change back. Of course because is he a male the fault is all his.
I think they need to sit down and talk about both sides. Why did she change? He can admit he is a jerk. Do they want to stay together. Maybe she changed to chase him away.
I know one thing for sure. If I made the post and came back and read the responses, I sure wouldn't come back here. Not much compassion. IMHO. Sorry. |
Yes, both of them have issues, but I cannot express much compassion for a person who does not seem to express much compassion for someone he is supposed to love. I understand that the changes that she has made are frustrating. But, I've been on the other end of that before-When hubby and I got together, I was a lot thinner. Changes in my life, metabolism, hormones brought this on, and it seemed like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get it off. I felt shitty-I still have a lot of that weight on, and I still feel shitty about it. The difference is, hubby helps me to feel attractive, by never implicating that I was some sort of a fatass failure of a wife. I make a helluva lot of effort. I'm sure that his lady makes some sort of an effort-maybe he just isn't seeing it. That is why he needs to talk to her.
P.S-changes are a part of life. Nobody can stay the same forever. Do you really think that he didn't change? He wasn't criticizing her from day one, I can tell you that. Couples have to deal with those changes in personality, and body shape. Sometimes, those changes aren't for the best, and the couple talks it out-they don't use immature tactics such as mental abuse to get their wishes. Just sayin'