Sinfinity,
There is a philadering forum, and they recommend a 50 mile rule. This is basic consideration to your SO, Significant Other. If you are seen by the friends and relatives of your SO, with another man, then this wil result in embarrassment, for your SO.
Families have secrets. If you have done something bad, it often makes things smoother, if you keep it secret. Family Honor may mean keeping family secrets.
Marriage Builders has the concept of Radical Honesty. That means telling your SO everything, honorable or dishonorable. I try to apply Radical Honesty to my marriage, by avoiding doing anything that I will hesitate to discuss with my wife.
Now you have had the experience of allowing a situation to go too far, and you have a dilemna. So there might be a lesson here, so that you can see something coming next time.
I personally avoid telling other women comlaints about my wife. I may post annonymously on Forums about my complaints, but I find that if I cmplain to other women, this gives them the idea that I may break up withmy wife, or divorce, and then it is morally OK for more intimacy, than if I was married, and not complaining.
How did the out-of-Area-Code guy come on to you? What could you have done to cut the situation off sooner, before intimacy started? What could you have said th first time he went to kiss you?
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