Of course it bothers me. It just wasn't meaningful to me. There's a difference.

Here's the way I see it. When you cheat and you regret it, you should have to deal with that guilt as your punishment.

When you confess, you put that off on the other person. They're the one who ends up suffering the most, not you.

When I leave here, I'm never going to see that person again because they travel for work constantly. Not that I would even want to, anyway.

I know this to be true, because a friend of mine decided to tell her husband about her cheating on him a year after it happened when she was re-entering the church. Her pastor even told her NOT to tell her husband about the incident, but she did. They're still together, but he suffers constantly from depression. It wasn't to make him feel better at all. She told him so she could feel better about it.