Talk to your wife and try to find out where her heads at. Don't be afraid to tell her your concerns.
Marriage is hard work and its a challenge to keep things new and interesting in the bedroom, but it's worth it. It can't be done if only one of the people in the partnership is willing to try, though, and I think that is what kills most marriages.
Are you still in seduction mode with her, like you were when you were dating and newlyweds, or are you complacent figuring she's yours for the taking so why bother with wooing and such?
I can't speak for all women, but I started to feel like I was being taken for granted after being married for a few years. My husband wasn't like he used to be, had quit being romantic and placed more emphasis on having sex instead of making love.
Do you have children? If so, I can speak from personal experience that it's an exhausting job and tends to sap your soul and your sense of who you are. In my case, that lead to depression and my husband's lack of making me feel desirable didn't help much.
We kind of drifted along like that for years until I hit 40 and turned into a sexual dynamo, in part due to the fact that I had my first online lover come into my life. He made me feel sexy, desirable and needed, all the things my husband had made me feel when we first started out together. I finally got the courage up to talk to my husband about how I felt and things started to change from there.
The last 3 years have been metamorphic in our marriage, and the changes, for the most part, have been wonderful. We still have our issues, but get through them because we talk things out and try to treat each other like we are still dating.
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