Hello, I am 33 and have been with my wife now for 6 years (married 3 of those years). In the beginning our sexual encounters were intense and OFTEN, although she has always been a bit timid or shy about experimenting during sex. We would openly discuss it and she would express her desire to try certain things such as anal sex, her swallowing and she even expressed a deep desire to be with another women. We would watch porn together and she would get so hot, it was like sex with a different woman (A WILD WOMAN). What I did find VERY odd was that unless porn, alcohol or a little herb was involved, she would never make the first move, NEVER. She would rarely give during oral sex yet she received every single time, but I love giving and didn't mind at all. Of course if I mentioned wanting her to perform orally on myself then she would and it would be ok, but at certain times she would want to do it herself without me asking and "WOW" it would be off the charts. During those monthly cycles when we couldn't indulge, never did she attempt to take care of me. I always make it a point that she has the big O before I finish and that the road to the big O is great but she never seems to want to do the same for me.

Anyways lately she has lost interest in all those things she once found eager to accomplish. We have fallen to maybe once a week and even then I have to make sure it gets done since she can't hardly do it lying there like a bag of potatoes. I mean I am 33 years old and she is going to be 30 in a month or so and she acts like she is 90. What can I do, if anything to get things at least back to the way they were. Can anyone give me any guidance on the approach I need to take. Sorry for typing a novel here, just wanted to try and explain it all. Thanks for any help you can give me.