I just always get timid as far as the balls go...:-( I'm warming up to licking a little more aggressively while blowing but as far as just a hand job, I'm always scared I'll be too rough-no good, sometimes a mood killer or I'll be too gentle/easy-no good, can be distracting "what is she doing down there? GRAB'em already!"

It so comes down to the guy and his preferences. I hate giving handjobs as the main attraction SO boring. I'd much rather be running my tongue up and down the shaft and feeling him throb in the back of my throat....BUT I guess I get the whole "waiting"/"taking it slow" thing....