Well for a lucky man it looks like he got the short end of the stick here. He has to be a mind reader and a bottle with a genie in it to pick all the right cloths. There is no way any man can fit this roll that you want this guy to fit.
More than one of us has asked you to lead him or guide him in the things you want him to do. To offer suggestion and show him cloth you like clear to how you want sex and still you have an excuse for beating him over the head with some thing WHY what’s the point just to here what the rest of us has to say about it.