A new position

Originally Posted by Dj Matty

My wife and i have been together for 15 years (marreid for 9)

We tried anal sex for the first time a couple of nights ago but had a bit of trouble. Can anyone offer any tips for a couple of first timers.

Originally Posted by heelfetish

I find some of the good info gets buried when you try to search for it. I've written lots on the subject, and I don't mind writing a bit again.

• Start slow!
• use LOTS of lube. I prefer silicone-based, but water-based cleans up easier
• Relaxation, communication, lubrication and trust are all key ingredients.
• Start with fingers, then move to small toys. Don't go for the large toys/penis right away
• Kegal exercises are great for becoming aware of your sphincter muscles and how to relax them.
• Try to have a bowel movement before you start play. Clean up well, washing the area, and slip a soapy finger into your ass to clean the opening. If you are healthy, there should only be trace amounts of fecal matter in the rectum except immediately before a BM. If you want to be squeaky clean, you can have a plain-water enema before any anal play. Don't overdo it though, too many enemas can throw off your digestive system.
• While porn is great for stimulating interest in an activity, it is by no means realistic. It takes a while to work up to the activities they picture. And don't think they go to straight ass fucking without proper warm-up.

Take your time, and enjoy it. Anal is a very intimate, relaxing experience. Take it slow, lots of foreplay. Light some candles, start with a body massage, oral sex, etc. Done right, anal sex should be 100% painless!

There should be no worries about incontinence or damage, so long as you do it right. Tales of incontinence, etc, are usually from those who are not safe about it. No lube, no warm-up, oversize objects, pain, etc. Done properly, anal sex should have the opposite effect.

Sorry for the confusing post. I had a bunch of information to share and not the time to organize it properly.

Originally Posted by Rob_E

...this site is ultimately about giving the members what they want.

Originally Posted by illcuminu

Also try a lube like anal eze and warm her up with a small vibrator and work your way up.

Originally Posted by Rob_E

...this site is ultimately about giving the members what they want.