Online quest for sexual stimulation.

The internet is great at anonymity, and I wonder how other people use that anonymity to feed their sexual desires besides just looking at porn.

So I'm really into the idea of girl/girl sex, and I'm intrigued by the sexuality of a girl, and especially one who is attracted to other girls sexually. I sometimes go into chat rooms and pretend to be a girl who is "curious" and try to find girls to talk to about their sexual experience, habits, etc. and seek advice to help with the curiosity. It usually makes for a good chat session and I get off to it. I've never really shared this with anyone, but I've always wondered if anyone else does anything like this.

How do you use online anonymity for pleasure?
Guys? Girls?

I do a fair amount of cybering and I post here quite a bit, but I don't lie and deceive to get off. IMO that is wrong.

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

Well, I wouldn't say I use it for "pleasure" and I don't use it to make stuff up.

What I do "do" is use online anonymity by being able to be more open and honest about sexuality in a way I can't be with other people in real life.

Like, for instance, none of my "real" friends know anything about the fact that my wife, who in their eyes is very innocent, was getting fucked by someone else during a period in which we were separated for a bit while dating. They'd be pretty surprised.

Even more shocked if they knew about the fact that the other guy and I had "overlapped" sexually with her for a couple of weeks when she and I got back together but she hadn't broken off with him yet, and I didn't know she had been with him at all until sometime months later. They'd think she was a slut.

And can you just imagine if I not only told them that I knew he was "large" and good in bed, but that she's described the things they've did together sexually in intense detail with me while we're in bed and having sex?

And then if I went further to say that we had even gotten a large vibrator based on his size, that she is still friends with him and we see him now and then (he's in her group of friends), and that all of this and the idea/fantasy of him fucking her again actually really turns me (and her) on as a result of all of the above?



I couldn't tell my "real" friends about all that.

And I definitely don't think I could mention all that when my friends have actually hung out with this ex-bf of hers when going out with her group of friends...and know none of this, not even that they dated, in part due to the total awkwardness it would cause if they knew.

It feels good to be able to have online friends or contacts I can talk about that stuff with without all the hang ups of having to worry about seeing them the next day or being aroudn them all the time and having them know.

Not judging, but I think it's just plain wrong to deciece any one about youre gender. Yes tell them you are from another state and country etc.

So my awnser tou youre question would be, I never pretend to be some one else.

I totally agree with this. I think it is completely wrong. Do you ever think that you acting as a girl are talking to another guy doing the same thing? HAHA! That would suck huh.

I know you said other than porn but most recently I have been in search for REAL homemade porn. There are alot of places you can get the regular porn stuff. Anyone know where I can find real people (not actors) doing things?

so apparently its ok some of the time (http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=21673), but just not now?

Partly because I feel like being controversial, I'm going to throw in the "what you don't know doesn't hurt you" argument. If you had an awesome experience that felt really good, if you never found out they were lying, in what way would your life be worse off?

I remember a similar argument on a different forum about a guy called toecutter. Toecutter stirred up massive controversy because he was a self described storyteller and he was damn good at it too. He'd tell people amazing stories about his travels and fun things that happened to him, but he made them all up. The way he saw it, you listen to a story because of what it makes you feel, because it entertains you, so the fact that the story isn't actually true is largely irrelevant, otherwise that shakespeare bloke would be in serious trouble. (and before you say, "yeah, but you know shakespeare was making it up", would toecutters stories have been anywhere near as entertaining if you knew he was making it up?)

ps. I can quite obviously understand why people object, eg: if it was a serious online relationship it would be much more of an issue than just a one-chat-stand type of thing, but since I have an unfortunate tendency to think logically combined with loving being argumentative, it makes it hard to resist ;-)

pps. for "real" porn, youporn and its ilk have tons of good videos (although these days the amatuer stuff is slightly buried by the pro stuff but its definitely still there) and imagefap has more amateur nudity than any man could ever get through in a single lifetime

I've actually have found many partners through the internet. I would be lost without it.

I think its a great tool.

It allows me to enjoy reading what other are doing. No fun if I am lying about who I really am