Aroused by your partner having sex with another?

How aroused do you get seeing your partner having sex with someone else? Separate categories for men and women.
I get quite aroused by guys coming on to my wife. Unfortunately she won't take it past flirting.

An erection doesn't count as personal growth.

I'm not sure how I feel about this, I like the idea of it but I think if it came down to it I probably wouldn't let her go through with, not to mention she would think it was too dirty for her, might be a fun time though

ummm like an orgy?..errr ewww?...I wouldn't want some slut or sluts fucking MY boyfriend and I think my b would kill anyone who got even remotely close to me

Nah, she might like it too much. And I wouldn't like her having a load of someone else's cum in her either.

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Totally arouses me!
I've had this fantasy for a long time..
So much that I've even talked with her about it.
We haven't gone through with it yet though...
Just afraid of it ruining a great realationship..
The thought of seeing her with another drives me absolutley fucking wild!!!

I've watched my hubby have sex with another woman and it was freakin amazing.....!

there is NO way I would allow my wife to have sex with someone else. It is however pretty fun to watch guys try to hit on her when we go out and she goes up to the bar to get us a drink or go outside to smoke and she slams the brakes on them.

It depends on the situation...I'm male (obviously):

- In fantasy with another guy: Super-hot
- In reality with another guy: Arousing, but there may be aftermath (I'd have to feel comfortable that it was "just sex")

- In fantasy with another lady: Super-hot
- In reality with another lady: Super-hot, but I might be worried/distracted about aftermath.

I can tell you from experience...some things are best kept in the fantasy world. Fantasize about it, write erotic stories about it...proceed very carefully before you do it in reality. Set boundaries and keep those boundaries. If you play with fire, you might get burned...realize that going into it, and consider whether it's worth the risk or not. Some people are emotionally equipped to stick to their commitments, some people are not.

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Well, I was caught up in a fantasy-cyber world for awhile, and it became reality and ruined my marriage. I just do not think it is a good idea. Some people think they can handle what they encourage, then they lose thier minds when they SEE the reality. You cannot determine what boundaries you can handle until you are actually testing them. I would never do it again. And I am one of those people who think emotionally. My commitments should have never been set, because I was not emotionally equipped to handle it, but I am not in that situation anymore, and now I can be me and start anew. It is not worth the risk to lose someone you love because they persecute you for things you were both involved in. Like my marriage counselor says, marriage/relationships are not a contract, they are a covenant. No spouse or partner should encourage someone they claim to love to have sex outside the relationship. It is a death sentence.

Hey Rocket! The outcast is back LOL. (just kidding, don't slap me anyone)

See, you have a mature outlook on it. Some people dont get what they want and they freak out when reality hits them in the face. PM me....

Love,
R

i couldnt watch my partner with another man a woman maybe

The prospect of it certainly seems arousing, kinda like watching a porno starring your wife. Having not experienced such a thing, I'm not really in a position to vote.

Sleep naked!

It does nothing for me. Even if was another women. It's kinda sad to because when I was younger it was one of my fantasies. Now I think it would just get to complicated.

I may be out in left field here, but it seems that many of you are either not aware or don't enjoy the "Hotwife" lifestyle. It goes by many diff names like, MILF, Cuckold, and even Femdoms and 'Swinggers', although there is a huge variation between all of these.

I came across the following definition on the web and it seemed like the one that best suited me and many other husbands & wives that are very much into this Lifestyle :



What is a “Hot Wife?”

The term hot wife is often used to describe a happily married woman who enjoys intimate relations with other men, with her loving husband’s full and genuine support, but where he typically agrees to be completely monogamous with his wife. Both spouses derive satisfaction from the wife’s extramarital pleasures. The husband is not necessarily submissive, although the couple may role-play that the wife relentlessly flaunts her “infidelity” in front of her husband.
It is understandable that this arrangement can appeal to women with a polygamous nature, but it is far from obvious why so many husbands are genuinely into this seemingly unfair arrangement. The husband is turned on by his wife’s adultery, whether this happens as part of a heterosexual threesome where she first has sex with her lover and then her husband, or if the husband is not present during her adventure, waits impatiently for his wife to come home from her date so that he can make love to her. You are forgiven if you wrongly believe that the husband is hoping for his wife to reaffirm to him that only he can truly satisfy her sexually. No, her husband gets more excited the more the wife enjoys her extramarital lovers! When the hot wife is back in her husband’s arms, she will often graphically describe the intensity of the orgasms she has just experienced with another man or men.

The wife’s sexual pleasure should not be confused with her romantic feelings - she is only in love with her husband. To minimize the risk that she develops a romantic interest in a lover, the couple has typically agreed to certain rules so that she for example only sees the same lover a few times, that there is a significant age difference, and that her lovers never are part of the couple’s regular social, professional or family circles.

Hot wife relationships are often first suggested by the husband who has fantasized about, if he ever gets enough courage to overcome his embarrassment and bring it up with his wife. The wife tends at best to react with complete amazement, at worst with severe hostility - even if she herself has fantasized about being with other men. She does so for good reasons: whilst there are common biological reasons for why the husband can be excited by his wife’s adultery, the reverse is rarely true and she therefore suspects that her husband has some other sinister reason for asking. Does he feel guilt because he has cheated on her? Doesn’t he love her anymore? Is he bisexual? Is he suggesting this as a first step to later justify that he should have the right to be with other women? Little does she know that the husband’s thought of his own wife having sex with another man tends to rank as the second or third most preferred fantasy amongst married men, and it increases with how long the couple has been married.

It is one of life’s ironies that men with hotwives often become very committed to themselves being faithful the more promiscuous their wives are. The husband typically finds his wife sexier than ever before - even when they first met - and the excitement of competing for his own wife highly erotic and exciting. There are accounts from wives that upon becoming hotwives, not only did they experience great sex and fun, but their husbands became more loving and romantic, bought them more gifts and vacations and started to take a greater interest in household duties - classical actions by a man seeking to gain a lady’s affection. Few wives can even in the slightest imagine that her no-nonsense husband who most definitely wears the pants in the house, possibly could be the type who would greet her with a passionate kiss in the early morning as she comes back to a picked-up house, knowing full well that his wife has just spent hours in bed being pleasured by one of her lovers! Now, before too many wives get their hopes up - only a minority of husbands - although a sizeable minority - would react in this way. And most husbands even in this minority will react with traditional jealous rage if he catches his wife cheating on him and where no hot wife arrangement has been discussed and agreed to in advance. The husband’s complete trust in his wife is fundamental for him to accept a hot wife arrangement.

iv never seen my gf has sex with another person but i guess if it was with another female it wouldnt be bad but never with another male.