If your GF is virgin , Ask for anal sex ?

Magno · 11-15-08

my gf is a virgin , do u think to approach anal sex to her or it will be a waste of time ,

Wckd_Beauty · 11-15-08

Regardless of if she wants anal or vaginal it's her choice and if she said no to one, you should try to respect that. If she says yes to the anal then that's a whole bunch of other advice but before that, respect your gf and don't try to do different things just because YOU want sex.

Dreama · 11-15-08

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Originally Posted by Magno

my gf is a virgin , do u think to approach anal sex to her or it will be a waste of time ,

Anal sex is a big deal. It is one of those things that could take time and preparation in ensuring that it won't hurt her...If she's a virgin, I'm probably right in thinking there's no way she'd start with anal. Plus, why not just go for regular sex? Are both of you planning to take it to a sexual level?

Puss_in_boots · 11-15-08

I agree with Dreama. Maybe you should try vaginal sex first. If she doesn't want to have vaginal sex then what makes you think that she would agree to anal penetration? Then again, she could be someone who has taken one of those "abstinence pledges" to preserve the sanctity of her vagina until marriage. I've read articles about this phenomenon.

Something tells me that sodomy as a substitute for sex is not entirely what the proponents of the abstinence-only education movement had in mind.

I also agree with wckd_beauty. Is sticking your dick into a hole really that important to you? My advice to any guy who's even considering asking his girlfriend to take it up the ass, is for him to try it first. Then if he likes it, go ahead and ask.

Magno · 11-15-08

i think that would be a reason never to ask for anal sex , but sometimes it really seems that some girls really enjoy it . and my gf is one of those who want to be virgin until marriage ( i really want to be her husband )
thnx anyways for the advice
P.S i didnt know that anal sex sex hurt that much

BassDude · 11-15-08

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Originally Posted by Puss_in_boots

My advice to any guy who's even considering asking his girlfriend to take it up the ass, is for him to try it first. Then if he likes it, go ahead and ask.

Agreed! (And I'm a guy.)

BD

Puss_in_boots · 11-15-08

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Originally Posted by Magno

i think that would be a reason never to ask for anal sex , but sometimes it really seems that some girls really enjoy it . and my gf is one of those who want to be virgin until marriage ( i really want to be her husband )
thnx anyways for the advice
P.S i didnt know that anal sex sex hurt that much

It's fine for her to want wait until marriage, but if she has anal sex then she'll no longer be a virgin. Sex is sex.

rugbylad82 · 11-15-08

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Originally Posted by Puss_in_boots

It's fine for her to want wait until marriage, but if she has anal sex then she'll no longer be a virgin. Sex is sex.

technically that isnt true, if your gonna make a statement like that you have to add "in your opinion."

Onxymornatic · 11-16-08

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Originally Posted by Magno

and my gf is one of those who want to be virgin until marriage ( i really want to be her husband )

Then do not expect any form of sex. My wife had the same beliefs and she would not entertain any idea of sex (even french kissing) before we got married. So if she does mean that much to you then you will have to sit tight until you wed.

Magno · 11-16-08

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Originally Posted by Onxymornatic

Then do not expect any form of sex. My wife had the same beliefs and she would not entertain any idea of sex (even french kissing) before we got married. So if she does mean that much to you then you will have to sit tight until you wed.

thnx for the advice

Puss_in_boots · 11-16-08

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Originally Posted by Puss_in_boots

It's fine for her to want wait until marriage, but if she has anal sex then she'll no longer be a virgin. Sex is sex.

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Originally Posted by rugbylad82

technically that isnt true, if your gonna make a statement like that you have to add "in your opinion."

Why isn't it true? And it isn't just "my opinion." It's a medical fact. If you're talking about technical virginity (the hymen being intact and all that) when what do you call a young woman who tore her hymen through riding a bicycle or other activity, long before she has sex? Whether you're being penetrated in the vagina or the anus, you're still being penetrated. Anyone who thinks that substituting anal sex for vaginal sex is going to somehow preserve virginity is seriously deluded.

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Technically, a virgin is someone who hasn’t had penetrative (vaginal or anal) sexual intercourse. Oral sex, while still a form of sex, does not affect your virginity.

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As I stated earlier, I doubt very much that the proponents of abstinence only education would agree that a women who has never allowed a penis in her vagina - but who has allowed herself to be penetrated anally - is still a virgin. Hell, they don't even want you to masturbate.

However, don't take my word for it:

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Anal sex IS sex. I don't know if this is the case for you, but a lot of young women come here reporting this is the case for them -- that anal sex isn't "real" sex, or isn't really sex -- or what their male partners have told them, so just in case: anal sex is sex. Just as much as vaginal sex. It carries risks just as high, physically and emotionally, and is "real" sex. So in the case you're having anal sex to try and preserve virginity or because you're not feeling ready for "real" sex, please understand that that's flawed. Anal sex IS "real" sex, and if you don't feel ready -- emotionally, physically, or both of you are not ready to manage it responsibly -- for sex, then it's not smart to be having anal sex.

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Here's some reasoning from a doctor:

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"Does anal sex count?" Hmmm . . . it certainly does in my book. But then again, my book is not a Bible. Then again, even a Biblical definition of virginity is someone "who has no sexual intercourse." So the question becomes: is anal intercourse really intercourse? Once again, in my book it is. Sure, some folks might equate virginity with an unbroken hymen, but that seems a bit technical, don't you think? After all, if you pop your hymen riding a bike or a horse or while playing leapfrog over fire hydrants, does this mean you would no longer be a virgin, even if you never made it past second base sexually?

The bottom line about your bottom and your virginity is that if you are having backdoor action, you are far from sexually innocent.

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Dreama · 11-16-08

Yeah, rugbylad-where have you been all of this 21st century?If you've had ANY sex, you're not a virgin. Period. Technically, she would NOT be a virgin. *shakes head* I thought people grasped this concept.

wrathofjade · 11-16-08

Though technically she would not be some people only consider virginity through vaginal sex because of the history with the hymen. You could still find sources that say anal sex does NOT affect virginity. Hell there are some that believe oral sex can take ones virginity. Really I try not to state for fact what it is but whatever the person in question considers their loss of virginity be that oral, anal, or vaginal.

RegenesisAgain · 11-16-08

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Though technically she would not be some people only consider virginity through vaginal sex because of the history with the hymen. You could still find sources that say anal sex does NOT affect virginity. Hell there are some that believe oral sex can take ones virginity. Really I try not to state for fact what it is but whatever the person in question considers their loss of virginity be that oral, anal, or vaginal.

I never understood why some girls prefer not to have vaginal sex,because they want to lose their virginity with a special one.But they still do anal sex with other guys.This seems like the biggest bullshit to me.
But I think this is a stupid think.I could never like a girl that does that.They must be sick.

rugbylad82 · 11-16-08

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Originally Posted by Puss_in_boots

Why isn't it true? And it isn't just "my opinion." It's a medical fact. If you're talking about technical virginity (the hymen being intact and all that) when what do you call a young woman who tore her hymen through riding a bicycle or other activity, long before she has sex? Whether you're being penetrated in the vagina or the anus, you're still being penetrated. Anyone who thinks that substituting anal sex for vaginal sex is going to somehow preserve virginity is seriously deluded.

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As I stated earlier, I doubt very much that the proponents of abstinence only education would agree that a women who has never allowed a penis in her vagina - but who has allowed herself to be penetrated anally - is still a virgin. Hell, they don't even want you to masturbate.

However, don't take my word for it:

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Here's some reasoning from a doctor:

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all these examples are just opinions. There can be no redefined basis for technical virginity. The word means what it means and it will always mean that, and any cultural issues with that meaning are still merely opinions. And i didnt say what i believe is in agreement with what i said, and what i believe in this case really doesnt matteras it does not have any affect on whether puss said was an opinion.