Anal in the shower

So far the shower has been the best place to try it. We've only been able to reach partial penetration but it was nice. The water seemed to help with lubrication and the feel of the water was nice. Unfortunately, we haven't had any luck with trying anal any other times. We've both been frustrated by it to say the least. I've had experience with anal in the past. I've tried the suggestions that have been made to me. Well, everything except the enema because I'd rather not have to go that messy route. We just have to be patient.

Taking something as large as a penis in your ass is going to take some time. While I understand the excitement to go full-bore as quickly as possible, if you're having troubles it's best to take it slow. Stick with toys for now. I've found toys that are tapered to gradually become larger work well, as the more relaxed you become, the more of the toy you can slip in. There are many anal 'starter' toys on the market that take advantage of this design, and if you don't have something, I'd recommend picking one up.

The shower sounds like a good idea. Not for lubrication, as water isn't a good enough lubricant for anal, but because it's a relaxing environment. The warm water flowing over your body will naturally relax you, and relaxation is paramount with anal sex. If you're in the water, be sure NOT to use a water-based lube or latex condoms, as the water will break both down. Switch to a silicone-based lube if you haven't already.

Good luck! It's delightful to see people taking an interest in anal.

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First off you have to work up to a penis, also water and even water-based lubes aren't good for anal. Silicone lubes are the best. In fact Heelfetish you said it all pretty much.
The best silicone lubes I love are the "Gun Oil" sense that one was made by Marines and omg does it last forever. Along with Astroglide is a wonderful lube just make sure it is the silicone and not the water-based one.
Practice and lots of play to get your anus up to the size of your man's penis is the key, be patient sweetie you will get there, just remember that if you are experiancing any pain to stop that means something isnt right.
Best Wishes!!

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When water mixes with lubricant it gets really slippery so it might help, but the biggest thing isn't making it slippery, it's stretching her out. And too much water can wash away the lube so don't let the shower spray directly onto you.

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Are toys better to stretch the anus or are fingers better?

Start with a finger, and slowly work your way up to toy. Silicone lube!!!! Your anus stretches just like your vaginal walls do. I don't recommend anal in the shower tell you are more advanced at it, and if using a water-based lube in the shower it will just wash right off basically.
Okay here are some basics again to anal play:
First off anal sex should not hurt, if it does then your body is telling you something isnt right.
Make sure you have a good "Silicone lube" Gun-oil, Astro-glide are great silicone lubes.
Don't use any lube that desensitizes that area, you need to listen to your body.
Water-Based Lubes one do not last long enough, and must be reapplied alot. Your anus doesn't lube itself like our vagina's do. Just when you think you have enough lube ADD MORE. LOTS of lube is the key to anal.
A finger, if you are a beginner is the best way to start, think about it, your anus was made to push out material and was ment to have something go in it. Your anus has numerous nerve endings in it, pain means that something isnt right. Also trying to put a man's penis in it when you haven't had anything maybe other then a finger in it will be painfull.
I am an advanced anal player and I love it. Doing anal in the shower as a beginner is not recommend, not only does it wash the lube off especially is it isnt silicone.
Start with a finger, going slightly in just a little ways, LOTS of lube I can't stress that enough, if you feel pain stop and start over. After fingers, start with a small butt plug etc... There are many many different types of beginner anal kits out there.
Then work your way up to a small toy and so on....
Since your anus does have alot of nerve endings and the intestinial tract is VERY sensitive also, if you are not ready and do not take things slow and work your way up to your man then you can cause damage to your anus, tears, rips, bleeding etc....
Also you have to relaxe even though you may start with just a finger relaxing is the best thing, believe it or not many many women think that they are completely relaxed and they really arent when something is being inserted into their anus. Deep breaths, also women find it once they are more advanced into play and are able to accept their mans penis sometimes pushing while their man enters helps to, helps to open their anus up more.
Start slow anal playing takes time. Lots of lube, "Silicone Lube", but please remember that if you are going to use any type of silicone lube make sure that if you have worked your way up to a anal toy that the toy is NOT silicone, since "SILICONE LUBES DESTROY SILICONE TOYS".
When you think you have enough lube, and the finger is covered and your anus add more. Take it slow, relax, work your way up to his penis, listen to your body.
Best wishes!!

*Life is too short to regret anything*
Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but Whips and Chains excite me!!

Thanks KatPrr that helps a lot. We tried one finger and then two the other night. We used vaginal secretions as lube. We will take it slow.

Take Kats advise. Don't learn the hard way by having to explain to a doctor how you ended up with an injury to your anus, rectum or insides.. Anal sex can be dangerous and must not be taken lightly... Lots of Lube and taking it slow for a beginner is the key to safe and enjoyable anal sex..Don't go off from what you may see in the porn industry either. They have been doing it for years and know what they are doing. If you try to follow thier lead, you'll end up getting injured and being put in the hospital...TAKE YOUR TIME and it will happen..And you will learn that either you like it or you don't...Remember what Kat said, if it hurts, then something is not right and you should stop right then and there... Best of luck to you!!!!

I know you're new to it, and that you're excited over the idea. But forget what you see in porn, vaginal secretions and saliva are not adequate lubricants. Please, for your health and enjoyment, stick to the lubes made for the job. No need to hunt down a sex store, even Shoppers Drug Mart sells a good selection of lubes right next to (or below) the condoms. I'm thinking that a good silicone lube will make all the difference in your experience.

Good luck with your future butt-luvin'!

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