Regarding Open Relationships

Exactly, it's about sharing the best things with your partner, whatever those might be! If all you want to share is each other, then by god, fuck each other exclusively and have a damn good time doing it!

We have talked about this but thats as far as we ever get! He would be one happy man if I allowed this I dont see anything wrong with it , its just not for me!

Lost in my own world!!! Want to join??

I didn't bother to read all the posts here, so please forgive me if I'm out of the loop, but ................

Call me old-fashioned, but, getting married means giving up sexual intercourse with other people. Ya know, "forsaking all others" and all that.

Yeah, I know its all well and good to swing, but other than a drifting thought of it and a few casual conversations about it, I never had any desire to do such a thing.

*crawls back under rock*

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

I don't think there is anything wrong with the way you feel. You and your husband might define your marriage quite differently than my husband and I do, or than Rose and Thorn do, or than BD and FC do. I think the rules of 'marriage' are only defined by those within the specific marriage. It's whatever works for you and makes you and your hubby happy, hun!

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

Agreed with Dreama here...you have to do what is right for you as a couple. If it's strict monogamy, then do it. If it's swinging or an open marriage, then do it. Anything between, do it.

The most important part here is that you only discover what is right for you as a couple by talking about it. And even moreso, what is right for you as a couple might change over the years, and you only discover that by talking about it. See the common point? Communicate with each other openly and honestly about what you truly think and feel...none of the other stuff matters IMO if you can't accomplish this part.

BD

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This situation has never happened. There has never been a society or a time in history when extra-marital sex has taken place on a fairly large scale, never ever. Some societies before Christianity had no concept of relationships at all, some had relationships that were akin to our swinging scenario, but as a rule rather than an exception, and some were somewhere in the middle. In Britain up until quite recent times, marriages happened in June because May was the month when marriage vows were suspended.

Only over the last 150 years has there been an expectation of marital faithfulness, and in reality this faithfulness is as much observed in the breach (about 30%) as anything else.

Whatever your flavour - swinging or otherwise, is up to you. But I disagree with the swinging is fine / cheating is bad scenario, because of the obvious problem where one partner is geared towards extra-marital sex and the other partner isn't. It isn't as simple as a case of lying or not lying, it is often more complex than that.

Those who posted 'swinging is fine', think about this. If swining was fine and simple to arrange, then why do so many not go to their spouses and say 'I'd like to find myself a lover'? Why sure darling, anything you want?

I don't know or care about what history has taught us. All I care about are my VOWS, one of which was to forsake all others for my husband. Argue the rights and wrongs all you want, I'm just saying that when I make a promise, I keep it.

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

I agree with CL, you took a vow to forsake all others and I think and open relationship, though not cheating, is not for me. I respect other peoples right to do as they wish and if it doesn't hurt their relationship then good for them. IMO if my SO needs the attention of another man, then I must be doing something wrong and need to work on that instead of allowing someone else to pleasure her.

When a woman wants a man and lusts after him, the lover need not bother to conjure up opportunities, for she will find more in an hour than we men could think of in a century.

Not everyone takes those vows. I'm not a liar. I didn't make that vow, cause we wrote our own. I've kept my promise so far, and so has hubby. I'll continue to keep them, too.

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

[QUOTE=cbrmale;219795
Only over the last 150 years has there been an expectation of marital faithfulness, and in reality this faithfulness is as much observed in the breach (about 30%) as anything else.[/QUOTE]

How about you cite some data/research for us.

We never took that vow either