nasty girl

another new issue I am facing with this younger man.. he is 10 years younger.. He is incredible and has made me want to be explorative, creative.
I was married for 14 years, and have very little 'experience' and am just now learning and experiencing many things about sex.. my marriage was apparently very "norm" in that sex was sex, not always missionary, but certainly without toys, dirty talk, etc.

So during sex this guy asks me to get real nasty.. talk dirty.. "get real nasty" he says.. like when I am giving him a blowjob.. or he'll ask me to touch myself and "be dirty.. "

hate to admit it but I need some ideas... I'm trying to be creative but as someone who hasn't watched porn and hasn't had many partners, I am a little fresh under the collar on this stuff but I want to learn and to please him..

also, I get the feeling he wants me to touch him around/in his anus. I do rub his balls, and the area between... I get positive moans and such... )
Any suggestions on how to do this (maybe placing my finger in his butt for the first time?

I think you both need to sit down and discuss what he means by nasty and what type of nasty talk he wants.... His definition of nasty could mean " you make me so wet" "I love the way your hard cock feels" or he could want "fuck my pussy harder" etc

Maybe he could talk nasty to you and show you what he means.... and remember only do what you feel comfortable doing, maybe you can start out with a few "I love it when you do that" and build up to 'nasty'.

that's true, I think we will have to. I know he also asked if I'd like to have someone watch, and in shock, I said, no, and he said, you wouldn't like that, and went on about that some.. afterwards, he said that he talks nasty an crazy during but that really wouldn't want me letting someone else touch me, or watching us. I guess I was a little embarrassed to ask questions like, "nasty? what do you want me to say?" because he is so much younger and I don't want him to think I don't even know what I am doing? (if that even makes sense). He's very explorative. And full of stamina. I've already been touched in ways never before. If he's giving oral sex, he asks me to tell him what I want, but in all honesty, he is doing it exactly like I like.

I guess some of it could be just where it is different than what I am used to, from having been married for so long and then divorced and without for awhile before now.
Thanks for the reply.

Never be afraid to ask questions about what he means. Hell, I still ask my husband questions like that, if I'm not sure. It doesn't mean that you don't know what you're doing. It just means your a partner who wants to please and you're willing to learn.

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

good point.. and good idea.. thanks..