Women 1st Notice? help a confused guy!!

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err... why does it matter? Everyone has different tastes, it's not like you're gonna be able to make everyone find you attractive. You cant change your face or body by sept 22 (which btw sounds like a silly plan) and it's doubtful that you're gonna go shopping for a whole new wardrobe so....i dont really see where knowing what women notice first is gonna help you out.

The confidence advice however, is good, but that may be hard to pull off if you're desperate to get laid.

Ok, i am just messing around about the sept 22 comment. I was just curious to think what you would all say and I apoligize about that. I just think that when i see a woman, they think what a creep or eww he is ugly. I just get nerves and do not know what to do. I think that women are always judging before they talk and get to know a person, AT LEAST ME. This is why I am asking this question. Im a person were I like to know what people think and say about me. I just wish I could read minds i guess

Well this is just my 2 cents and I dont mean to sound rude at all, and I will apologize in advance for it, in case it does.
First off, who cares what other people think of you!! In my opinion what I find to be most attractive about a male or female is the way the present themselves, confident, comfortable etc.. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, to be noticed.
Life is to short to wonder what women or even men think about you, or your appearance or what we notice first. Confidance and security are a win in my book, no matter what they actually look like on the outside, it is what is in their heart, and how they present themselves. I guess I am a little bit of an odd ball since I look outside the physical aspect. Just my opinion.

*Life is too short to regret anything*
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I wish I could read minds too, but I can't. If you think that women think you are a creep, or ugly, that is exactly what vibe you are going to put out. Just act like you own the room, but not in a pompous way. Catch a girl's eye, and smile at her. If you catch her looking again, walk over and start a conversation. If she gives you the chill, move on. You cannot just stand by the wall and expect women to flock to you. It's all a big game. The girls are just as worried about what the men think of them at your age, and sometimes beyond. My motto is if you don't take a chance you will never know, and you might miss something important. Don't work so hard on getting laid, but work harder on making friends, getting to know women, and building relationships. They don't have to be serious relationships, but the more people you know the more chance you have of meeting that girl that is going to lay you. Make sense??

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FlirtyChick is dead on. If you never gamble, you can never win.

Thank you *blushes*

Simon, read Katprr and Flirty's advice...then read 'em again. Then read 'em one more time.

Learn to read women's body language. If someone looks at you and smiles at you from across the room, it means they are interested in you. Go talk to her. If you're standing in a circle of folks, a woman who's interested in you will typically turn her shoulders squarely toward you, even if she's looking away or talking to someone else. If she flips or plays with her hair or touches her lips when you're talking to her, she probably likes you. Look her in the eyes when you talk to her...if she does the same she probably likes you. If her pupils dilate everytime she looks at you, she thinks you're attractive. If she touches you, that means she feels comfortable having physical contact with you. If you're sitting and she crosses her legs toward you and turns toward you, that means she likes you. Now granted, just because someone likes you and/or thinks you're attractive doesn't mean that she wants to bang it out with you (she might just like you as a friend rather than a romantic interest), but it's a good start. Someone who isn't interested in you at all certainly isn't going to bang it out with you!

If you don't already have one, develop a sense of humor. Memorize some jokes if necessary...everyone (man or woman) loves to laugh! Go check the "Joke of the day" thread.

Learn how to flirt. Nothing screams "comfortable confidence" like flirting. Go look up the thread on flirting, innuendo, and double-entendre. I get a real kick out of telling some hot lady "I'd love to fuck your brains out" without actually coming out and saying that ...and it's usually quite funny too, so that counts as humor as well. Practice flirting with everyone, flirting can be with intention (to get laid) or without intention (just for the fun of it)...I flirt with women my age, younger, older, little old grandma's, babies...you name it. I already had a quick-witted sense of humour, but I think I probably really learned how to flirt well from my wife..she's an absolute master at it. She quickly had me eating out of her lap...er...um...hand when we first met.

HTH!
BD

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"Learn how to flirt. Nothing screams "comfortable confidence" like flirting."

This may be true, but I don't think I've ever been one to "flirt," yet I've never had trouble getting to know people (especially women), and all I do is try to be a good conversationalist -- mainly by listening. If you're interested in people, your questions to them will be natural and you'll remember their answers. Do that and you'll soon have a long list of contacts who enjoy being with you.

If you need to be laid by a certain date then go and pay for the services of someone who specialises in sex.

If only it were legal... fucking nonsense.

Yup, definitely agreed, Joe. I'm a conversationalist too, have been ever since I overcame my shyness many years ago. I actually love talking to people (especially women ), so it's just really easy for me to engage someone. I have pretty much no filter about what it's "socially acceptable" to talk about versus not, so I'll pretty much talk about anything. Funny how many conversations turn to sex quickly.

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The young OP already has some golden advice.

Kat, bass dude and flirty thanks for the great advice. I think that this has been very good advice that will hopefully help me out. Everyone else thanks also. I will be looking for these things and hopefully meet a lot of new people.