How can I convince my bf that his member size doesnt matter to me?

I told him millions time that I dont care about his size but hes really self-concious...
Dont know how to help him??
Any ideas will be appreciate it

there is nothing that you can tell a man that will make him stop saying that he is small. its their little part of being self-concious, like women feel about their entire bodies.

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I agree, there isn't anything you can do or say. It's something he has to work out on his own. It's his problem, not yours.

Barbwire a.k.a. Cowboy Lover

Easy.

Tell him you think it's "cute".

Oh thats just cruel... "Cute" is the last thing any guy wants to hear, i would think.

Seriously though, I admittedly dont have a huge pecker. I'm right there in the supposed statistical average range, sometimes slightly bigger or but usually slightly smaller depending on just how long its been and how aroused I am.

I think that most guys would love to have one of those long "pornstar" cocks. But they also have to accept what nature give's them. There's nothing more that you can do to convince him except continue to tell him that you like it and show no signs to the contrary during sex.

Hell, even fake a few extra if you have to, and you're confident on "selling it". He probably wont be able to tell inbetween a couple real ones (yay for us guys being oblivious to things), and the extra O's will (hopefully) give him an extra jolt in his confidence. Avoid working your clit at the same time so that your pleasure is soley his doing.

These are just ideas, and of course, he still has to accept himself and choose to believe what you say.

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All you can do is talk to him, but sounds like you tried that already. I think the more you all have the adult playtime etc.. it will build up his confidance some. Let him know during sex how good he feels in you, or if oral how great he fits in your mouth etc..

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...damn well does matter! Once you start using your cooter a whole bunch, you're gonna want some extra girth! The good news is, the more men use their wieners, the bigger they get as well, so, if you are relatively compatible now, you may...grow together over time.

You could try telling him that there are certain positions you don't like doing (like, say, doggy) because he's too big and it hurts when he "bottoms you out" (hits your cervix). The last time my boyfriend and I did it doggy style, it did hurt a little for those reasons. When I told him, he rather smugly replied:

"I guess I'm just too big for you."

Hahah! I know exactly what you're talking about. My tool is rather average sized and I can easily fit balls deep in her (and I just love it xD). Anyway, on this one time a little while ago we were enjoying ourselves and I was inside her on a position that I felt like I was going real deep. Afterwards she told me that it had hurt a little and I was instantly getting a bit enthusiastic about it and saying: "Maybe I was just hitting your bottom "

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I think a lot of the size problems come about from the ready availability of porn, and most porn actors are well-dimensioned. When I was younger there was porn around too, but prior to injections and medications, the only actors who performed were the ones who could perform, and they were the size they were. So we men didn't seem to worry about size.

Beyond what a man may see and compare, there is another aspect to size. A man never feels more masculine than when he is hard and ready for sex, and being big and hard and ready for sex adds an extra dimension to these feelings of masculinity. In these cases, satisfying your partner is only an excuse for feeling good (or great) about yourself.

There have been studies done on penis size against male personality. Men who are larger have more sexual partners on average. Given erect size is not publically visible, it is assumed that these men are more confident with women. There are some interesting negative correlations: well-hung men are likely to be less ostentatious (big car / expensive house etc etc). This inverse correlation indicates that these men are more confident in themselves too.

One piece of advice I can offer as a well-hung (girth-wise) man is that sex becomes a bit harder. Your partner needs to be more aroused for sex not to hurt, and certain positions are not possible. Anal sex is a challenge, which is why I have only had anal a few times in my life. Blowjobs have been difficult for most of my partners and generally unsatisfying for me. So a bigger penis isn't all good news.

There is nothing you can say but, there is something you can do! Make sure you comunicate to him what gets you off. If his penis to very small and doesnt do anything for you, make damn sure he knows how to get you off.

even if you tell him that it is big (even if its not) it can still be a massive ego boost even if he know's you're lying about it

I think every man has a little bit of anxiety when it comes to his penis. We seem to define ourselves by its shape and size. Yes, porn does not help. I'm an average guy, but even I get a little uneasy about it sometimes.

Try this: Next time you're about to give him head, tell him that you're not sure if you'll be able to fit it in your mouth.

Honestly, the first question that needs to be answered before anyone can properly advise you on how to handle the situation, in my opinion, is, even if it doesn't matter to you, is he actually small or not?

Based on the answer to that, then you have a number of different options to either convince him he is large/average enough, or again go about convincing him it doesn't matter to you.

But rather than list all the options and strategies, I think you need to answer that question first.