Please read!! How would you deal with this serious issue.

Every time you have sex, normal intercourse, it's equivalent to running a 50 yard dash! Tell the next time she wants a snack, to have sex with you instead!

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OMG, that rocks, Fliteskates. I had no idea how things had worked out since you started that last thread. I'm so happy to hear things are going great. You are a great guy, and your girlfriend is a lucky girl! Again, I'm so glad your girlfriend is feeling better.

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

Like a lot a things on here the truth hurts and this guy is being truthful even if you do not like what he is saying.Like I said earlier I dated a number of big women in the past [long term]and had no problems at all, but many men and women would make fun of them when their backs were turned or just say hurtful things in front of them.Many guys will not date a bigger woman because they are afraid of the looks they get from other guys or they date them as fuck buddies never introducing them to friends and family.The men who have these attitudes are not all young guys,they are not strong emotionally but they are all not young.

I hope this guy is dating people for the right reasons and gives the women in his life the love and respect they deserve and excepts when they change,but not every not everybody can except changes such as weight gain in their partner so at least he is trying to get some ideas on how to best help her and not just walk off on here.

I like the word beautiful no matter how its used so if a woman is BBW,that works for me.

Nice work, Flite!

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This question is actually very complicated. But I will keep my reply short and sweet. Bottom line is that you really can’t change someone. The person themselves has to decide on the right course of action. If the person is comfortable then their mind is set and will not alter until they choose to change it. Our mind is a very powerful device.

So you can either choose to love the person and support their decision or move on. Because I believe you will have a hard time telling them something that they have not already come to terms with on their own.

I speak from experience. I gained quite a bit of weight after entering my relationship. I am now beginning to lose it but I had to make the decision to change on my own. Some people are comfortable and some are not. I for the most part have never liked my body I typically loathe myself but that is just how I am. But I stray from my point. I am just trying to say that you can either love them or leave them because you will not change them only they will change themselves.

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I really only see one healthy solution here. If you want to date a woman who won't "let herself go", you should intentionally seek out those women who take care of themselves, physically. That doesn't necessarily mean a woman is toned and trim, she doesn't have to be a fitness fanatic, it could be that you'll find a mildly-somewhat overweight woman who exercises regularly and adheres to a fairly nutritious diet. But the point is, she should be concerned about her health to some extent. When people eat right and exercise for themselves, this type of person doesn't generally let themselves go just because they settle into a relationship. What usually happens is that juggling work and family obligations over time causes people to become lackadaisical about the shape of their bodies. A single woman who juggles her responsibilities and manages to maintain a fairly active lifestyle is going to stick with the program. Exercising together, playing sports together, cooking healthy meals...there are a multitude of ways to take care of yourself individually while making physical fitness a routine part of your relationship.

Weight gain is only natural for women, too...you have to keep that in mind. A woman's body stores fat more easily and burns fewer calories than a man's (it's not exclusively because of size differential, either; a woman's body fights to keep some fat on it for fertility purposes), and metabolism slows over time. If you marry and have kids, motherhood is a huge drain on time and energy and can make it very difficult to stay in shape. In all honesty, and to be on the safe side, just expect it to happen. Anticipate a small-moderate weight gain in your partner at some point in time. Life naturally and inevitably conspires to change people, physically as well as emotionally. Most people undergo a few weight fluctuations over the years. The only way to guarantee that a person will remain exactly the same as they are the day you meet them is to put them in a cryostasis chamber.

If a woman is dedicated to a healthy lifestyle and falls to the wayside, begins pigging out on junk food and forgoes her normal exercise routine, there is usually an emotional reason behind it. Some people turn to alcohol to help them cope, some to shopping, others to gambling, some to food, etc. The very best thing you can do is address the core issue. Encourage her to seek help for the depression, anxiety and/or stress that is causing her to use food as a crutch (without associating the two in your discussion), or the issue that has caused her to lose interest in her well-being. Once everything is under better control, once a person is coping with their problems in healthier ways, they begin to feel more like themselves and regain their motivation for taking care of themselves.

So that's what I got; take what you want and leave the rest

Um...let's not be sexist, eh? Do you think a woman's body doesn't respond to a hot, studly physique? We are biologically wired to get all gooey and moony over the more attractive specimens of the opposite gender, too, ya know. There are men whose bodies I drool over because they are damn hot and there are men whose bodies I have drooled over because of the feelings those men engendered in me (and then there's the third category, which comprises some of both of the former categories). What I, my enlightened sisters, and the enlightened segment of the male population know is that a sexy personality trumps all.

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Go Bluesy, go Bluesy...as usual, so very well said! I couldn't agree more...

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