Just did anal for the first time

Well thank you very much. lol

Actually i told her that i have lube...and she said it actually makes it worse...i asked how she said she couldnt really explain...guess ill take her word on it though i found it odd.

She probably hasn't used the right kind of lube, then. You're taking unnecessary risks by not using one. Vaginal lubrication is continually produced during vaginal intercourse, switch to anal and all you've got is that little bit of residual lube that is going to be used up within a few seconds, and then you're going to get the sort of friction that leads to tearing. It only takes that one incident out of 1,000 for something bad to occur. If I were you, I'd at least inform her of those risks so she has the option of making an informed decision regarding her anal/rectal health. Here's a good article you could share with her, if you like: http://www.talksexwithsue.com/analsex.html

As a responsible lover, you have the right to put your foot down when sexual safety is a concern. You can say, "Look, we'll find a quality lube that feels nice, but I'm going to have to insist on this because I don't want to take risks with your body." It would impress her to know that you care that much about her well-being (it should, anyway!). Astroglide is probably the thinnest lube that would work well for anal. Here, I'll make it easy on you: http://www.astroglide.com/SampleRequest.asp

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...experience is that pussy juice is a better anal lube than some lotion, saliva, KY, Vaseline or a mission specific lube? Do you recognize how counterintuitive that is? I mean, I have no interest here in doubting you or the level of oils in the pussy juice of the women you have done this with, it simply fly's in the face of every experience I have ever had and, considering the nature of this forum, I don't want some newbie to butt fucking getting carried away and hurting his lover.

Ditto.

If that were true, I'd still be here.

It's not always that abundant though.

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It feels a lot different to me. For one thing I need a lot of coaxing and foreplay before I will let a boy put more than the tip of his finger in me. It usually helps if he gives me really good oral sex first and pays a lot of attention to licking around my anus and getting me very wet enough to slip one or two fingers into me before he brings me to orgasm