my boyfriend wants to try anal sex?

Barbwire · 01-21-08

LP, are you off your meds again?

Fliteskates · 01-21-08

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Originally Posted by sarah_rslp

I think this thread is going the same way as all the other threads on anal sex.

I don't consider anal sex as normal. It's such a male obsession that ferments itself in watching too much fucking porn. It really kills me to have to read, all these guys spouting nonsense about how erotic it is and then with a huge amount of cheek start reccomending way of dilating your sphincter, giving yourself enemas, getting on your hands and knees and asking to be fucked up the arse. (I don't mean you bluesy, god knows nobody can accuse you of being casual about the subject)

Seriously do you really think that's the type of advice to be giving to a woman that's posted a genuine question. Maybe you spend all your time sodomising strangers in empty car parks, but it's a pretty niche lifestyle choice.

So electric girl if you want to have anal sex, follow some of the links Bluesy gave, sort yourself out and do it. Ignore all the guys that are writing posts that read like letters to the editors of porn mags.

People where having anal sex long before porn or television was ever around. If you knew anything about the sexual habits of the Spartans and ancient Greeks, I doubt you would of made that statement. They didn't get their ideas from "Planet of the Gapes"

There are also tons of women out there who enjoy anal sex. In fact, I know alot of women who love it and they told me many of their female friends do as well.

These women don't have to "lie" to me about it because we are just friends.

Oddly enough, I know alot of guys who hate it.

It is a personal preference.

Should we all call you a size queen because you said penis size is important to you?

The funny thing is the original poster decided she wanted to do it, and asked our advice of how to go about it.

She didn't ask if she should do it or not.

Then you go off on the men for trying to give her the advice she asked for.

Here is her question in case you missed it

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Only it doesn't really come up and I don't know how to suggest to him we try it, and Im willing now. Any ideas?

LPjammin · 01-21-08

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Originally Posted by Cowboy Lover

LP, are you off your meds again?

...now that you mention it...

Amateur Nudist · 01-21-08

If it was me I'd love nothing more than to have my wife with her ass in the air waiting for doggy style but when it came time for me to slide it in have her say "I want it in my ass". Not the most romantic but it would definitely turn me on.

Bluesy · 01-21-08

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Originally Posted by LPjammin

Love your attitude! Anal sex is nasty in an intensely erotic way and being that aware of what you're doing and having a matter of fact attitude of what it takes to prepare for YOUR pleasure and YOUR enjoyment makes me want to build a statue in your honor for being so frank about it.

Yeah, but....are you going to also build a statue in honor of the woman (or man) who is true to herself and says "no" to anal sex because it would be a violation of her personal boundaries to do otherwise? She (or he) is just as, if not more, deserving of accolades ya know.

And if you don't want to, I'll build the fucking statue

I'll make it out of solid gold...and it'll be ten times higher than yours, so *nyerhe*

LPjammin · 01-21-08

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Originally Posted by Bluesy

Yeah, but....are you going to also build a statue in honor of the woman (or man) who is true to herself and says "no" to anal sex because it would be a violation of her personal boundaries to do otherwise? She (or he) is just as, if not more, deserving of accolades ya know.

And if you don't want to, I'll build the fucking statue

I'll make it out of solid gold...and it'll be ten times higher than yours, so *nyerhe*

...you know what they say; to thine own fart be true.

God, I love a woman with a competitive streak.

JuicyB · 01-23-08

Start with a well lubed FINGER! Don't go any farther until that positively feels good!

boringsafetyguy · 01-24-08

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Originally Posted by sarah_rslp

I really don't think it's going to work out trying to make the whole thing like some sordid porn movie.

Aww! But sordid are the only good kind.

FlirtyChick · 01-24-08

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Originally Posted by boringsafetyguy

Aww! But sordid are the only good kind.

I quite agree! This forum is full of intelligent people with knowledgeable advice. It is a place to encourage those who want to try new things, and is really not the place to debate and negate others' posts. If the men reply to anal discussions with "tell him to fuck you up the arse/ass", listen. They know what turns them on, and they have the right to say it on this forum. The original poster asked a question to get answers about something she wants to do. Let her take the advice in the way she needs to without argumentation from people who don't agree with others or don't like the activity being pondered. Myself, I don't particularly care for anal, but I am so glad others do, and in the event I ever decide to do it, I will tell my husband I want him to fuck my ass!!