make her orgasm!! tips?

Getting her to orgasm can take a lot of time, both in the number of session and the amount of foreplay needed. From my experience orgasming is an issue that young people who are just having sex encounter. For the male it requires patience and understanding not to rush foreplay. The woman needs to learn what feels good and what is the best way to bring her to orgasm.

From a practical experience some external stimulation around the inner thighs, labia, and vulva helps. Once she becomes lubricated the stroking the outside of the vagina and the finally moving to the area around the clitoris helps. After she is properly aroused pulling back the thin sheath around the clitoris and stroking directly always seems to work especially if you are also fingering the vagina at the same time. If you are going to try that it is important that she is aroused and lubricated. Otherwise it may be painful and uncomfortable for her if you try it without the right level of arousal.

Agree to a night of "assisted masturbation"! She masturbates herself, and you help by adding whatever caresses, hugs, kisses, fingerings, words of love, or whatever she wants to help her hit the jackpot! Agree to leave your own desires on the back burner for the night, and just focus on helping her enjoy!

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Actually, that is a REALLY cool idea...gets my vote!

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In the past I was a big fan of mutual masturbation. Especially starting out having sex as its guaranteed that you both come. I've said this before it takes a while to get used to the opposite sex. I know for me it took a while to have a naked bloke wandering around my room, In a way it was more disturbing that actually having sex.

Back on the subject of masturbation, a few years ago I had to stop having sex for about 5 weeks. I was feeling quite cranky and sorry for myself. My bf at the time was quite sex mad and I was worried about how he was going to take it. But instead of just asking me to go down on him like I expected I got awesome backrubs during which he'd masturbate himself by thrusting against my arse or shoulders and later on my tummy, I thought it was really sexy, his sex drive actually picked up and my knickers stayed on the whole time, I would orgasam by carefully masturbating myself. It was a complete change of direction.

I just wanted to mention this again just to highlight that there are options to penetrative and even oral sex. Especially if like the original poster one of you is having problems.