Talking to your kids about sex

Well, today I started discussing the basics of sex with my son. We were riding in the car on the way back from his doctor's appt, so the poor kid had nowhere to run. LOL!

I had only planned on just scratching the surface, but ya know what? Sex is a very complicated thing to explain. Before I knew it I was going into menstrual cycles, conception, veneral diseases, birth control, masturbation, etc. etc...

I watched his face in the rearview mirror as I talked to him. He seems pretty relaxed about the whole thing and asked a few questions.

One thing that I wanted to stress to him is that he didn't have to be married to have sex, but it was best to wait until he was out of his teenage years. He said, "Yes, I want to be mature enough to handle it." I thought that was an incredible thing for a kid that is not yet 10, to say.

UPDATE: Holy shit, I've created a monster!

After letting him think about our little discussion for the day, I just asked my son if he had any questions. He had PLENTY! After an hour of being grilled I said, "Hon, I really need to get dinner going." and he said, "Just tell me one thing. A while ago I heard zoo noises that woke me up. I went to your bedroom door and opened it. I saw candles burning all over the place. I didn't say anything and just went back to bed. Where you and dad doing it then?"

After I laughed for about 10 minutes straight, I told him we were. He said, "Maybe you should lock your door."



Zoo noises!

Well, I think masturbating all the time to the point where a person doesn't want to work or interact with friends is an issue. Don't you? Almost everyone agrees that everything is bad in excess.

"Zoo noises". lol I'm glad I wasn't your kid.

Zoo Noises!!!!!!

"Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right." (Henry Ford)

LOL @ CL. That's great. But it sounds like you're off to a good start.

Shine on, you crazy diamond.

Hmm i actually disagree with some of your statements
Of course i can only talk about how i was "raised"

well the first time i knew how people got babies was actually when i was 6 i was in school and a fellow classmate asked how you got children and we all got the answer

i have NEVER had THE TALK with my parents, and i am glad i havent. (i am 18) i would be freaked out if my mom started talking about masturbating, and how she and my dad does it (i try to live in happy denial )

at the age of 10 i still pretended i did not like to see girls that were almost nude ( i did like it) i was 11 when i started masturbating. I watched porn from that age, and i havent turned into a monster because of that. I like it to be romantic, i want to love the person i do it with, and i do not find porn "realistic"

so as you can see, i am not some porn freak because i learned some things from porn.

I would personally be disturbed if my parents tried jgood4u's approach. :S
i live in a home where we do not talk about sex, only as fun remarks, but not about our own sexual lifes (we are not religious any of us)
But the reason why i dont think i have had the talk, is because my parents dont suspect i have done anything (i am addicted to privacy, i do not talk with them about girlfriends and such)

its just my 2 cent

The vast majority of sex-ed that I got came from books. I remember "Why Boys and Girls Are Different" when I was very little. As I got older, the books got longer and the pictures got less cartoony. I think I came out ok, but your mileage may vary depending on the child's reading ability.

Your son is inevitably going to get some kind of health class or sex ed from school, the contents of which you may not agree with. As far as the classes go, let him jump through the hoops and get the easy 'A', but tell him to double check the facts with you. Ask him to show you his reading materials. You never know if the teacher might be someone who is inexperienced or who has a bad opinion of sex in general (thank you South Park for that one).

So this thread was basically dead...I'm going to close it. Please refrain from resurrecting old threads, guys.

Shine on, you crazy diamond.