Anal Q for the girls

Same here That desire to be penetrated anally is so very vital. It is unfortunate that not everyone will find themselves in the proper mind-set for anal play at least some of the time, because it is such an incredible, unique form of pleasure. (I must note at this point that I've never had anal sex, only used toys that are somewhat smaller than the average penis.)

But you're a good guy for respecting their boundaries, so *kudos* to you for that It's just a fact of life that most people aren't going to be 100% on the same sexual wavelength as their partner, and that's when you get to find out just how much your partner really loves/respects you (because there won't be any pressure to indulge them; even the subtle, indirect kind will be absent).

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The most beautiful make-up of a woman is passion. But cosmetics are easier to buy. ~Yves Saint Laurent

The sexiest parts of my body are my brain, my heart, my spine, and my guts.

...gonna debate that, size. The concept of 'too much' is not lost on me. Where I was trying to go with this is the anal retentive person vs. not. If it feels good when your lover touches you here or there or anywhere, it feels good. Some folks have taboo's and things they won't do based on reasons that have nothing to do with how it feels but with their perspective of it, as certainly it their right.

My experience with a dildo was not interesting or exciting at all, to either of us. We (she) didn't even get very far with it. It didn't hurt but it was not a turn on for either of us. For better or worse I am a fucker not a fuckee. I find being tied up boring. Being ridden by her is OK but I end up not being able to stop thrusting back. I can, however, take a blow job forever as long as I can at least caress her hair, reach her, touch her back as past of it. It's tough to just sit back and enjoy.

All I know is that some of the women who I have had anal sex with absolutely dug it, not all the time, not as a steady diet, but when the moment was right. And some just don't wanna give it a go or won't go back for seconds and that's OK and, as I said, it seems to me to be a personality driven thing.

That's what I thought was interesting.

I have to feel really clean and really trust my lover to be in the mood for anal sex. But when everything is right there is nothing that can compare to it. The intensity of the orgasms I have when he makes me kneel on the bed and I massage my clitoris while he gently and slowly but very firmly eases his penis deep into my rectum is incredible. I always have to be coaxed into it though. I usually won't initiate it, but I will let him know it I will let him sometimes by pulling my knees up to open myself completely to him when he goes down on me. If he is in the mood too, he will lick around my anus to get me wet and gradually tease a finger a little into me while he nibbles and sucks my clit to give me my first orgasm. After that I am his and I will let him take his pleasure with me in any way he desires.

Perhaps its the combination of surrender and trust in him to let him make me do something I have always thought of as really naughty and dirty and at the same time controlling my own orgasm by pleasuring myself.

The one thing I won't do is suck his penis after its been inside my ass. I have had a couple of guys try to get me to do that, so perhaps it seems like something some men want, but its totally not appealing to me.

...they don't actually want you to do that. Remember, men are part monkee. We seen it on a dirty movie, so...

But there is no man who actually wants or expects you to give him head after that. It IS dirty, it IS nasty, it can be incredible, as you described and then, off to the shower.

Well, I think to be on the safe side, you'd better inquire into a prospective partner's feelings on anal before you get too cozy--that is, if anal sex is that important to you. A woman's uninhibitedness and feelings about anal sex aren't really related. We all have our preferences, our likes and dislikes. Some of the most conservative individuals--who give the impression of being "anal retentive"--are the kinkiest in bed. You know what they say about still waters running deep... And some of the most gregarious and adventurous people can be really bland and conservative in the sack. I just think you're setting yourself up for major disappointment if you think you can accurately discern a person's sexual interests based on personality characteristics.

Looooooove that line! Good one!

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The most beautiful make-up of a woman is passion. But cosmetics are easier to buy. ~Yves Saint Laurent

The sexiest parts of my body are my brain, my heart, my spine, and my guts.

...all in all, if it never happens again, I'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. Again, what interests me is the human part, the personalities, the way people think. I see people limiting themselves because it gets outside their comfort zone. We'd still be in caves if that's how we all thought. We'd never go sky diving. Never drive fast, never go to the moon and, in my opinion, if that mindset limits someones intimacy and the passions and emotions of sex, as deeply as I feel them, anal or otherwise, that is there choice and it is, to me, a bit...sad.

But I do understand. I ain't been sky diving yet!

Well, there's nothing wrong with being attached to a specific sex act (I can't imagine being in a relationship with a man who doesn't like cunnilingus ), what's important is that if that if there's something you feel you need in order to be sexually sated, that you state that upfront, very early into the dating relationship, so there aren't any misunderstandings or hard feelings later on down the line.

You sound like a Try Anything, Don't Limit Yourself kinda guy...so I guess it's safe to assume that you're up for any kinda kink? Like swallowing your cum? Or having a "sound" inserted into your penis (a slender metal tube-thing)...because, you know, it's my understanding that if you're highly aroused and in the right frame of mind, it feels really good Surely you're uninhibited enough to try it, right?

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The most beautiful make-up of a woman is passion. But cosmetics are easier to buy. ~Yves Saint Laurent

The sexiest parts of my body are my brain, my heart, my spine, and my guts.

...they doesn't sound remotely interesting. :yike:

Jizz is fine yet it does nothing for me personally and I hate sushi.

Some of the sexiest kissing there is is face to face after cumming all over her face and in her mouth. Same with kissing after going down on her. There's something terribly erotic about sharing her pussy juice with her.

As for sticking junk up my junk...

*sigh* But do you see where I was going LP? How about a break down? *ahem* Sounding (penetrating the urethra with a slender object) is a high-risk sexual activity. Anal sex is a high-risk sexual activity. To enjoy sounding, one must let go of their preconceived notions of how it would feel. To enjoy anal sex, one must let go of their preconceived notions of how it would feel. Sounding can be painful if you aren't looking forward to it. Anal sex can be painful if you aren't looking forward to it. Sounding can be an exciting and enjoyable sexual activity if one is mentally prepared and the process is gentle and slow. Anal sex can be an exciting and enjoyable sexual activity if one is mentally prepared and the process is gentle and slow. In order to get the most enjoyment out of sounding, and to prevent injury, one must usually begin by using very small objects and graduate to larger ones over time. In order to get the most enjoyment out of anal sex, and to prevent injury, one must usually begin by using small objects and graduate to larger ones over time. Not everyone is "cut out" for sounding, due to the risks involved, the psychological element, and anatomical structure. Not everyone is "cut out" for anal sex due to the risks involved, the psychological element, and anatomical structure.

So, LP, if you don't think sounding is for you, you aren't willing to even give it a try, then, really, you should be able to understand why others might not want to engage in anal sex without having tried it. I think it's crucial that we address this elusive thing called empathy when we're talking about anal sex, because too often the one who would do the penetrating lacks the ability to really and truly put themselves in the other person's shoes.

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The most beautiful make-up of a woman is passion. But cosmetics are easier to buy. ~Yves Saint Laurent

The sexiest parts of my body are my brain, my heart, my spine, and my guts.

...all my English teachers felt the same way.


Now I'm visualizing you in dominatrix garb whacking a chalkboard in frustration as I sit there in my Angus Young outfit fighting you tooth and nail over every vowel, consonant and syllable.

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...no empathy for this;

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urethral_Play



Now, as for those who have no interest in anal sex, as I said, I let her give it a go and it didn't turn either of us on so, I am not demanding that everyone bend over and grab their ankles as I plough them up their ass all the while explaining how it should feel good to them.

Girls i dont like anal sex. I feel the pane(