What makes a woman good in bed?

I agree with Bluesy on both posts. The first post hit it all on the head. That's exactly how I feel although I don't mind having my boundaries pushed a bit. It's fun as long as it's not too much. That's not say I think it's ok to push someone else. Not at all. I'm just saying a little is ok for ME.

Sex is a progressive art.

what makes it better, is when your passion for your mate comes out during sex. It enhances everything. more than just the act.

My wife hated sex when we first got married because of the stigma her parents had put on it making seem dirty.

After years of her doing it for me, and my insisting she was to enjoy this as much as me, she started to relax and allow me to make her feel good. But during that time, I would only get oral pleasure once in a blue moon.

It started to change a year ago. I don't know why, other than she started to like sucking on me. It went from doing something she did not like, to appreciating me and her knowing that just made me feel so good. Once that connected, she started wanting to do that more and it has come to be a regular thing now.

So I think you have to enjoy what you do to your partner otherwise it does not translate.

Also, once she became passionate about it, her techniques became smoother and relaxed and it totally changed how she delivered it. It went for a few minutes, to 15 and even longer in foreplay.

I know this thread started a while ago, and many good posts, already. Pearl, you've taken the first step, already, in that you are willing to hop on out on a sexual forum and ask questions. The very fact that you want to please your mate, and learn what that takes, is 75% of it. Not very many women is this world do that, unfortunately.

Rose and Blues have both pretty much nailed it. Enthusiasm, Learning, enjoying yourself, etc. One characteristic I'd add is unpredictability. If your not occasionally being unpredictable, then you are in a rut, IMHO. Most guys, whether it's w/food, work, life, etc., like variety. If you are in a monogamist relationship, the only way you can get that is w/unpredictability. This goes way beyond throwing on some new nighty.

Occasionally, do something that he wouldn't expect you to do, and catch him off-guard. He will always remember these moments. Some examples...an unexpected blowjob, whether it's when he just got home from work, in the car, or right after you've had your orgasm. Drag him into a bathroom, outside of your home, and seduce him into sex. On a normal occasion, offer to drive, find a secluded place to park, and demand sex.

The willingness o try everything!!!!
Also my boyfriend has slept with one other person then me but appreantly felt nothing during intercourse and he never came either... and when we first had sex he exploded and hahaha he looked like he'd just had a baby, the amount of sweat coming off him. He told me (without being spiteful obv) tht she never touched him, never wanted to do anything but lie there and have him fuck her... and me i move my hips alot... i push him onto his back and do my bit! lol generally im alot more exciting.. so i guess girls could better by trying everything they want to and the partner wants to... not being so shy they a glued on there backk.

To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, but the devil slapped on the genitals.

Great advice! The only think I can add is to quote Bluesy: Lubricate your mind first...both his and yours. Get him excited, tease him, give up lots of innuendo...make him think about fucking you almost all day, then be ready to enjoy the hell out of it when it happens (and it will).

Sex is an act of giving not getting, so take that view...but don't forget to do it in a way to get yourself satisfied along the way though. (And oh yeah...definitely thrust back! If he's on top you, life him off the bed by your thrusting if it feels good to you, and gets you off!) The best thing for me always is getting my partner off...it's easy for me to get my rocks, I'm a guy. In fact, I've recently discovered that just about anything that turns my partner on actually turns me on like mad (even if the one flipping the on switch isn't me!)

Cheers,
Dave

easy..what makes her good. Her mind. How she talks to me, or acts with me...just the words are erotic enough..