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Originally Posted by Head Jones IV  Can I ask: What is the difference in him having fantasies about men or women?
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I keep coming back to this statement. My husband loves watching porn - loads of women that put me to shame, physically. And he loves to watch 3-somes (something I'm not into). But I've learned that it's all a sexual fantasy. He can
think about it, and even get turned on by it, but he's not inclined to
act on it. I am the love of his life.
The 'big question' is: "Honey, are you going to desire this alternative lifestyle later on in your life?" It truly needs to be opened up and answered before you move to another level.
Whether it's hetero, or homosexual tendancies, the two of you need to sit down and TALK about your feelings - both of you. Let him talk. Share your thoughts/fears. Whenever 2 people decide to commit themselves to a lifelong relationship, they need to open up to each other about needs/desires/goals for their future. It's no different with this subject. The things that are important to each of you need to be discussed and agreed upon, or at least come to a 'common ground'.
Life will always bring unexpected complications. But denying obvious differences
now is not the best route to take. Communication is a cornerstone to a lasting relationship. Sit down and talk.... and LISTEN.
It doesnt paint a good picture in my mind. lol I would try talking to him again about it. He just might be curious thats all.
