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Originally Posted by Mr.Tongue I usually keep them in my head, the few times I've tried to incorprate them, I got a dirty look or WTF are you doing, my wife is just more conservitive then me. |
No. No, no, no, no,
no. A man's job in the bedroom is to discover what turns the
woman on, his job is to please her (so long as he doesn't feel obligated to do anything he's uncomfortable with), and the woman's job is to discover what turns the
man on and implement those activities in the bedroom (again, without overstepping boundaries). You've turned sex into an activity centered around your gratification and overlooked your wife's enjoyment. No wonder she doesn't want it more than a few times a year! You need to change your focus, hon.
If there's a fantasy you're interested in, the proper sexual etiquette is to discuss it beforehand. Never, ever do something that might not be well-received, and if there are any doubts at all, ask first. But not during sex, because it could ruin the mood if she doesn't want to try it.
The way you spice up a marriage is to discuss the things you'd like to try--you should both be tossing out ideas--and those interests that are
shared, that sound enticing to both partners, are the ones you give the green light to. You have to take both partner's needs and desires into consideration--it's a compromise, just like marriage.