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Originally Posted by Cora  Bluesy... my update on that is that the relationship fizzled out in the end anyway (which btw I'm fine with). I couldn't see it at the time, but now I really do feel 'off the hook' over this anal thing. Would possibly still be open to it at some point with a future partner I suppose, but it would be better if it was one who knew what they are doing lol. Don't care if it never happens... just a "never say never" thing. |
Mmm hmm...There's that trap that so many women (and some men) fall into, wanting so desperately to please their partner that they manage to talk themselves into wanting to try or do something they don't actually want to try or do (we are so good at fooling ourselves, aren't we
). Just remember, the "right guy" will never make you feel pressured (even indirectly) to do something that gives you pause. And it's good self-esteem practice to remind yourself regularly that you deserve to be loved and appreciated for who you are and what you have to offer, that you owe it to yourself to protect and preserve the sexual and emotional boundaries that keep you feeling safe and comfortable. You owe that to yourself, and the right guy is going to
want you to respect those needs. That's what love is. You'll find it, hang in there
